This is probably my 4th or maybe 5th post on this subject. To make a long story short, we dated for a month but broke up because our parents, her parents not so much, mainly mine, didn't want us dating at this age. We still like each other a lot, all that seems to be gone is the title. As far as most seem to know, she's single, and so am I. Don't get me wrong about her parents though, they wanted her to wait a while too. I don't know how long she has to wait, but I do know that I can't date until college. My parents however made it worse. They made me stop talking to all of my online friends, her especially. And here's where the problem comes in.
I haven't. They made this request..demand..whatever you want to call it in August. Its November 1st now. Out of all of my online friends, she's the only one I still really talk to, besides maybe two others with which I have a sporadic conversation here and there. I just find it so hard to not talk to her. And I mean really hard. I tried not talking to her recently, while Hurricane Sandy was going on. I still had my power, and my area of NYC wasn't hit as hard as other areas, my apartment wasn't flooded at all or anything like that, just really hard blowing winds. However, I found it hard to stay away. I lasted 3 days..and immediately sent her a text and called her the next morning. I would say I barely lasted, since during those three days I would at one point or another whip out my phone and type a message to her, but never send it..
So this is my problem, either I keep talking to her and go against my parent's wishes, or I leave and talk to her later in life, probably when I'm on my own. Either way I'm going to talk to her, whether I keep going now or stop and call her or something when I get to college, which would be in about 2 and a 1/2 to 3 years from now, given I'm 15. And if this matters at all, she's 14 turning 15 this month.
I've had many different plans revolving staying or going. One of the plans I was thinking about was just leaving without saying goodbye, probably after Christmas or New Years Day. The thing is, I don't think it would be much of a blow to her if I go, since I've already promised her that no matter how long we go without communication, I'd find a way back to her. On top of this, I've already accepted at least to a certain point, that if I go, she would move on. We've talked about it at a certain length, and she wasn't sure, but I am. It doesn't seem realistic for her to be hung up on me for 2 and a 1/2 to 3 years when we aren't even talking. And giving the friendly outgoing girl she is, I doubt she would stay single that long. I've already let her know that if there would be another guy she wanted to pursue, to go ahead. So I've already given her the green light..
Leaving without saying goodbye is a weird concept for me. But leaving and saying goodbye hurts too much. I've done it twice before involving this recent issue, and 2 or 3 times before this issue even emerged, due to issues with friends on the chat site we met on. Yet I always came back. Even once, she stopped me from going. The first time I left regarding this issue, we were both moved to tears. The second time, we were sad but smiling since we knew it wouldn't be goodbye forever. This time, I'd rather avoid that pain and just go..
Please, any advice would be appreciated. What would you do? The way it looks honestly, the question about leaving is not if, but when and how I should do it..
I haven't. They made this request..demand..whatever you want to call it in August. Its November 1st now. Out of all of my online friends, she's the only one I still really talk to, besides maybe two others with which I have a sporadic conversation here and there. I just find it so hard to not talk to her. And I mean really hard. I tried not talking to her recently, while Hurricane Sandy was going on. I still had my power, and my area of NYC wasn't hit as hard as other areas, my apartment wasn't flooded at all or anything like that, just really hard blowing winds. However, I found it hard to stay away. I lasted 3 days..and immediately sent her a text and called her the next morning. I would say I barely lasted, since during those three days I would at one point or another whip out my phone and type a message to her, but never send it..
So this is my problem, either I keep talking to her and go against my parent's wishes, or I leave and talk to her later in life, probably when I'm on my own. Either way I'm going to talk to her, whether I keep going now or stop and call her or something when I get to college, which would be in about 2 and a 1/2 to 3 years from now, given I'm 15. And if this matters at all, she's 14 turning 15 this month.
I've had many different plans revolving staying or going. One of the plans I was thinking about was just leaving without saying goodbye, probably after Christmas or New Years Day. The thing is, I don't think it would be much of a blow to her if I go, since I've already promised her that no matter how long we go without communication, I'd find a way back to her. On top of this, I've already accepted at least to a certain point, that if I go, she would move on. We've talked about it at a certain length, and she wasn't sure, but I am. It doesn't seem realistic for her to be hung up on me for 2 and a 1/2 to 3 years when we aren't even talking. And giving the friendly outgoing girl she is, I doubt she would stay single that long. I've already let her know that if there would be another guy she wanted to pursue, to go ahead. So I've already given her the green light..
Leaving without saying goodbye is a weird concept for me. But leaving and saying goodbye hurts too much. I've done it twice before involving this recent issue, and 2 or 3 times before this issue even emerged, due to issues with friends on the chat site we met on. Yet I always came back. Even once, she stopped me from going. The first time I left regarding this issue, we were both moved to tears. The second time, we were sad but smiling since we knew it wouldn't be goodbye forever. This time, I'd rather avoid that pain and just go..
Please, any advice would be appreciated. What would you do? The way it looks honestly, the question about leaving is not if, but when and how I should do it..
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