Help =/

[laceyd]

Hi, so I am new here.. I met my long distance boyfriend on Omegle and we have been in a relationship for four months now and I feel like this is the place where people would understand how I feel the most because they are going through this too. I am 18 and he is 22, turning 23 in January. My family acts like he doesn't mean anything to me and they won't give me a chance to tell them about him and that really hurts me because he means everything to me.

So, anyways my problem is that he wants to start hanging out with his friends again. I want him to be happy and out having fun with his friends but I don't know them and it is so hard for me to trust them. I understand they are in their early 20's and what to go out, stay out late and drink but I have gone through that with so many other boyfriends and it just gets old after awhile. I agreed to let him go hang out with his friends this weekend and they were going downtown but he had told them he didn't want to be out late because I had asked him to be home by 12. Things were starting to change and I could tell that he was feeling different so we worked some stuff out about him going to hang out with them. I guess what I am trying to say is, has anyone else felt this way? How did you work things out? I hate being that controlling type of girlfriend cause that's definitely not what I want to be.

Thanks for the time.

[snow_girl]

You sound like you are being a controlling girlfriend. You've been dating 4 months and are already 'agreeing to let him hang out with his friends' Seriously? It isn't up to you. You either trust him, it doesn't sound like he has given you any reason not to. Just because past boyfriends have done something is not reason enough to tell him if he can and can't hang out with friends. It really isn't up to you. It has nothing to do with trusting his friends, it has to do with trusting him. If you can't then maybe you are not ready for a relationship at the moment.

[Hololz]

You sound like you are being a controlling girlfriend. You've been dating 4 months and are already 'agreeing to let him hang out with his friends' Seriously? It isn't up to you. You either trust him, it doesn't sound like he has given you any reason not to. Just because past boyfriends have done something is not reason enough to tell him if he can and can't hang out with friends. It really isn't up to you. It has nothing to do with trusting his friends, it has to do with trusting him. If you can't then maybe you are not ready for a relationship at the moment.

Agreed. Sorry but the only reason I could ever see this being an issue is if he went out all the time and did not make time for you; but this doesn't seem like the case. Let him have a bit of fun, he'll decide when it gets old. Like snow girl said, if you trust him, there's no issue, you shouldn't need to trust his friends, he's old enough to make his own decisions.

[LittleBox]

It really isn't up to you. It has nothing to do with trusting his friends, it has to do with trusting him.

Ditto this. You need to let yourself relax and trust him. Its easier said than done and there might be certain things you might not approve but those aren't deal breakers and if they are then talk to him about your concerns and let him reassure you. Don't impose a curfew on him or suffocate him with do's and don'ts. He's old enough to make his own judgements. He shouldn't even be seeking your "permission" to hang out with his friends in the first place.