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    One of your parents tells you that long distance relationships never work?

    My mom does this almost every time I try to talk to her about it and one time she just went up to me and said "Look, long distance relationships never work" and she also says stuff like "how can you two love each other if you have never met?"

    My mom doesn't understand because she grew up in a time where there was no internet available and where you were only able to date people near you. She finds it odd that I am dating someone so far away that I've never met, but I do love him. I don't think she'll ever understand.

    #2
    I get that its frustrating to hear but fighting with her isn't going to help anything. Instead of trying to explain, -show- her all of the cute stuff you do for each other.
    Made it official: 12-01-10
    First visit: 3-29-13/4-09-13
    Closed the distance: 07-31-13

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      #3
      I understand completely. It makes me so mad because my mom completely shuts down whenever I bring it up. She just answers with "Mhmms" and "Uh Huhs". The day my boyfriend left for bootcamp, she found me in my room crying and instead of comforting me or being encouraging she told me "I knew this was going to happen, you need to suck it up." and then proceeds to tell me I'm a mess and not to hold myself up in my room. I would have understood if she told me this if it had been a week and I was a hermit, however it was the day he left. I think I was allowed a day to recollect myself. She has been so discouraging and unhelpful with our relationship, it really upsets me. When I have confronted her about it, she tells me I'm being ridiculous. I have just learned not to talk about him or bring anything about about our relationship in front of her...
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        #4
        I know just how it is, sadly. I love my boyfriend, and I think after almost 2 years talking every night, and skypeing whenever we can, I know he is real and want this to work. It's just that finances can get in the way of getting together. My mom tells me the same things at times, like the "He's never going to come see you." and the "You can't go see him." It gets me so mad, but the worst is when she talking about when I date someone else, thinking something local. It upsets me, but then I think that she just doesn't understand. I should really show her more about my relationship, but some days I'm just scared about getting negative reactions. Anyway, I would just think what I think. She does not really understand, and if you love him you can and will make it work one day.
        Met Online: 2009-10
        Started Talking: Jan 25, 2011
        Relationship Started: June 25, 2011
        First Meeting: June 9, 2014
        Engaged: June 12, 2014
        Second Visit and Road Trip: Sep 3, 2014

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          #5
          I would hate it...
          But I guess I'm lucky, my parents are very supportive. Of course, they don't like that I spend most of my evenings up late but yeah.. My mum really look forward to meet him to the summer (she already loves him, he send me flowers for Valentines day and she started to cry haha) and my dad actually seems to like him too. They haven't met him but they see that I'm happier than ever now and my happiness is what is most important for them, at least that's what they say.
          I guess the only tip I can give is to tell your mother/mothers about him, what he says to you and how he makes you happy! And if they don't like it.. well.. it isn't them that are in the relationship right?
          Big hugs

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