Teens Psychological problem - any advice would be great

[Karoshi]

Hello there, so I have this one problem. It may sound stupid, but it really annoys me and it's causing some troubles in my relationship. It's not specifically LDR problem, but I don't know where to ask for help.
The problem is, I'm always overreacting when it comes to some issues in our relationship. In the beginning I told my bf that we need to talk about everything, every little issue we have. But when he tries to talk to me about something he dislike, I start freaking out and I think that he wants to broke up with me. I know it sounds silly, but if some of you have the same problem, may I ask you for some advice how you deal with it? Thank you very much <3

[dragonlady]

the only advice i can give you is a shrink about it (dont know the normal word for it in english sorry) this can create very big problems later in life!

[Hollandia]

Hello there, so I have this one problem. It may sound stupid, but it really annoys me and it's causing some troubles in my relationship. It's not specifically LDR problem, but I don't know where to ask for help.
The problem is, I'm always overreacting when it comes to some issues in our relationship. In the beginning I told my bf that we need to talk about everything, every little issue we have. But when he tries to talk to me about something he dislike, I start freaking out and I think that he wants to broke up with me. I know it sounds silly, but if some of you have the same problem, may I ask you for some advice how you deal with it? Thank you very much <3

You are a teen correct? I am mom of one, so maybe I can help. I think part is just your age. How old are you? How many relationships this serious have you had before? I think another part of it is something many of us go through. I do mostly due to the LDR. I start to let my mind imagine he is blowing me off and then I find out he was working or getting the place ready for my visit. Then I feel like a twit. I think the easiest way to work through it is doing what you did. You recognize the problem and dissect it and take away it's power. Tell yourself it is just in your mind and soon it should be easier to believe it. Have faith in your relationship and know that if it is meant to be it will. Trust and love him and have open lines of communication. I also think that talking to others that are going through the same thing helps much too. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk more.

[aniay]

I think overreacting is part of beeing a teenager, though it sometimes carries on into the adulthood. (Have this myself)
it helped me when I started to talk about what's going on in my head. Even though my SO finds it weird whenever I start overreacting I just start talking about it and not keep it inside me.
After I'm done with talking, the problem's gone from my head.

And If you feel concerned I advice going to psychologist, even once, It's really good and helpfull.


*hugs*

Good luck!

[Kiyama]

I think it is a normal thing to do for a teenager.
According to your profile you haven't been together very long. It takes time to build trust in a relationship. Ask your SO for some understanding and with time, you'll see that raising an issue doesn't mean he wants to break up

[Karoshi]

Thank you all for your replies <3 I am 19 and this is my second serious relationship, and first LDR. In two days I am going to visit my bf, so I will try to explain him what's my problem and how I feel, and I hope he will understand.