Teens Communication issues

[tjohnson81]

I have been dating my girlfriend for almost 4 months now and have known her for about 7. We used to be able to talk and talk and talk but now it usually ends up with awkward silences over skype with her looking at her phone or just smiling at me. The only conversations we have usually pertain to issues in our lives or self esteem or general compliments. I'm scared of losing her to this. I am seeing her in 27 days and I hope with that it will bring a spark of fresh conversation that will continue for months afterwards. Any suggestions of how to communicate how I feel to her and how to have better conversations. I feel comfortable around her but when the idea of conversation comes into my head I seem to run dry. Please help!!!

I just need some pointers to give us a fresh new start and ideas to keep conversations going all night long. Her texts usually pertain to simple 1 line replies somethings shorter, rarely longer. I feel like one problem is that we talk 24/7 leaving us nothing to talk about because we are constantly with each other. If a break is needed from time to time, how do I tell her without hurting her feelings? Please help.

[Anoulie]

I'm just gonna give you bullet points, I hope that's okay with you.

- Communication "dry spells" are perfectly normal in any relationship.
- What do you expect to talk about if you talk 24/7? Usually, you'd talk, I don't know, two hours a day, and you'd talk about the things you did in the other 20 hours.
- There are lots of things you can do in an LDR that do not involve simply talking to each other via Skype/phone. Check them out on this site!
- And even if you do want to talk, you can try out this "1000 Questions for Couples" book that you can buy on Amazon. That should get your conversations going again!
- But most importantly, just chill and look forward to meeting again. This dry spell does not mean you're falling out of love and must break up within the month. No, as I said, it's completely normal.

I wish you the best of luck!

[alittlemind]

As Anoulie said, if you talk 24/7 at some point you're going to have nothing to talk about... and sometimes, even if you're not talking 24/7, but there is really nothing new to talk about... sometimes silence will be involved. And that's okay. I'd say as long as it doesn't persist on for months and months, you'll be fine.

Try finding things to do with your girlfriend while you're on skype. You can watch movies together, find funny/silly jokes to tell each other online, cheesy pick-up lines to have a laugh together... there are so many things! My boyfriend and I will sometimes play little online games together, and it's fun for us because we both like video games, and we can spend our time together doing it! There's lots of ideas out there, google is your best friend in these situations, and I know this website has a bunch of awesome ideas too.

[Kristin91]

This happens to my SO and I since we text a ton during the day. Here are some ideas of things to talk about:
- Random questions from google
- Tell each other a story about your families or your childhood
- Play This Or That (Would you rather have [THIS] or [THAT]?)
- Play a game together (chess, checkers, etc.)
- Watch a new TV show or learn something new together... it'll give you a natural conversation starter