Teens My mum won't accept us.. How did/would you deal with this?

[Marleigh-Nicole]

Me and Connor have been in a LDR for 3 months now and I struggled to tell anyone about it. I told my friends after 2 months and they were happy that I'd found someone who was so lovely. Today I finally found the courage to tell my Mum..
She told me it isn't a 'real' relationship and that I shouldn't call him my boyfriend when we've never met.
How do I handle this? Should I stand my ground and tell here I'm sticking with this or should I go behind her back?
I know lying isn't a great plan but I love him and can't see life without him there.
He recently moved further away, taking us from 467 miles to 512 (Yeah it's not a lot but it's knowing he's further that is upsetting) and we considered whether being together was good for us and that's the closest I ever want to come to losing him.
How have you dealt with disaproving parents or friends?

[lyonsgirl]

Have you video chatted with each other?
If yes: include your mom in one of the sessions so she can talk to him too.
If no: you should make this happen ASAP.

[Marleigh-Nicole]

We video chat every day. My mum has seen him (and even accidentally flashed him -_-) she just doesn't class us as 'real'. But our only problem is he just moved away for college so skype is going to be a rare thing

[Brieasaurus]

he just moved away for college so skype is going to be a rare thing

Why? Plenty of people on here are in college and still find time to skype everyday. Anyways, I wouldn't really turn it into a huge thing with your mom. It's still a new relationship so maybe once you've been together longer, she'll accept it as a mature relationship. Do you have any plans to visit? That helped solidify my relationship for my parents.

[Marleigh-Nicole]

Where he's living, his internet connection isn't strong enough for us to video chat.
She doesn't agree with the whole "We've never met and I met him online" which I can understand because she just wants to protect me. I just wasn't sure what to do.
He's planning on visiting in November/December and the reaosn I'm not sure about going behind my mums back is because that in itself is going to cost us £110 each just to get him here.

[Marleigh-Nicole]

Just incase anybodies interested. I waited until we were alone to bring this up to my mum again, although she won't refer to him as my boyfriend just 'the lad I talk to', she has agreed that when he visits in December he can stay at our house on the condition he sleeps in my brothers room (as my brother is at Uni) which I'm fine with. It worked out

[RachelAnne]

Yay! I'm happy for you Your mom might still feel a little weird about it at first (so was mine), but after she meets him and gets to spend some time will him she'll most likely come to accept it more. Have fun!

[alizee]

Yes, I am happy to hear that your mum is beginning to change her mind. That*s a first step that she agreed to let him visit you during the winter holidays. Parents can be like that - times have changed and the love relationships can develop nowadays online (hey, when your mum was young there wasn*t any internet connection, or it was very little, so she met your dad in a classical way, and that is why she is a little conservative about this).
And you said your boyfriend moved to college and you won*t be able to skype - can*t you 2 speak on the phone???? You are both in UK and I think the phone conversations will be easy. My boyfriend and I talk almost daily on the phone, as we live in the same country and we have the same phone operator which provides us with a lot of free minutes.
Gool luck with you two!!! Hope everything goes well between you two and with your mum!!!