1 1/2 years of love...and we've never met

[007manyo]

Whelp, after a bit more probing, I was disappointed to find that she hates the sound of her voice, and that's why she refuses to call.

Again, she isn't allowed to Skype, and we can't meet... I don't really see a solution here. Is there, perhaps, somebody who knows about techy things that coul make this super-easy? That'd be awesome.
I'm just slightly disappointed, as you all can relate to, I'm sure. This is my first LDR... Not to mention it's also my first serious "R". I've had "relationships", aka dumb young teenage things just to fit in better, and none of those were any good. But once I met her... Man, she's the one, guys. Sadly, we have calculated that it will most likely be a few years before we can close the distance and finally meet... And it hurts my heart to know that I won't be able to feel her or smell her (or taste, for that matter) for that long... But do you all agree that I should at least be allowed to hear her?

[RachelAnne]

I agree you should be allowed to hear her! Especially since the two of you can't meet right now, which sucks. Do your parents know about her? There's no way ya'll could plan a time in a couple months/a year to meet each other? I agree the waiting sucks, and it'll suck even more without being able to talk to her. Hopefully she'll get over this fear soon and be willing to call you. It will definintly make the distance a lot easier. I don't know what I would if I couldn't talk to my boyfriend on the phone or Skype! Lol. Try to ease her into it gently and tell her she has nothing to worry about--that you like you for who she is and she shouldn't be the least bit concerned with how she sounds on the phone. I hope she gets over this fear for both of ya'll sakes and agrees to a phone call--it'll be a lot better

[007manyo]

She's seriously P/O'd at me now. I've tried calmly explaining the pros and cons, telling her my opinion, listening to hers and trying compromise... But she hates it so much... I've told her that her voice doesn't change the fact that she's the love of my life, but she won't have it... My options are scarce here... I feel like I've tried everything

[007manyo]

I'm in a huge danger zone now -- she's stopped taking to me... There has to be something easier than trying to convince her...

[RachelAnne]

I mean...the only other thing is just waiting for her to come around, but I don't see why she's overreacting like she is lol...is there something else going on...? I don't understand

[007manyo]

Lets hope not.....

[007manyo]

Are any of you familiar with voxer? Its an app that can send short voice messages. I don't know if its any good. Opinions?

so, now she won't even text me. Should I give up? It doesn't seem like convincing will do a thing.

[princessmaria]

It seems like she's hiding something. There's no reason at all to overreact like that unless it's more than just an insecurity. People don't act like that when they're simply insecure...

I've used voxer before. It's a good app, try it!

[007manyo]

I believe that she is who she claims to be, because I've thought of that in the past and we've fought about it at length. I have no doubt she's the girl I fell in love with... She just won't cash me for some reason. I've told her that we'd be the only ones hearing it. She's afraid of being judged, but I told her I wouldn't judge her. Again, she just won't have it.

[007manyo]

Bump?

News: she's breaking out of her shell a bit, and today she started to say "I love you" again ^_^ I'm really glad she was able to break through that emotional barrier she put up.

Also, I want to give a shoutout to my friend Tiffany for closing the gap! She's not a member, and quite honestly, I don't remember his name, but I was having a conversation with her the other day, and she told me they finally met. Congrats, tiff!