Teens Is there any hope...?

[parxnoia]

Hi. I just made my account. I am in a LDR and its getting too complicated and I need help and advice from people going through a similar situation.
This might be a long post so hopefully people will read it because I honestly am in need of expert advice I cannot cope with the issues in my relationship.
I have been in my LDR for almost 11 months now. We did meet online. Yes I have already met him in person. He is amazing I love him a lot. Our issues started happening before we met. But it gradually increased after we met in person. His mom started getting too involved in our relationship. Its starting to effect it and making everything worse. First of all, his mom is a little crazy, mentally. She absolutely despises me. She hates me so much and it hurts how much she hates me because I have never done anything to wrong her. She took his phone after she found out he met me in person (no she didnt know he met me in person because his grandmother paid for everything to come and meet me and I adore his grandma because shes the best). Anywho, when she found out she was extremely angry and she took his phone away from him. We have no way of communicating except on the weekends because he goes to his grandmothers on the weekends. i only get to see him 2 times a week and its extremely hard because she has taken his phone away 5 months ago! She does everything in her power to break our relationship up and its unbearable. This has been the most frustrating five months of our entire 11 months together. On top of all that. Im suffering depression. Which I have only recently am being treated for. So im still going through it and I keep getting angry with my SO. almost every single weekend we have at least 3 arguments. and its driving me crazy. I cant control my emotions because my depression causes me to have irritability and I get so angry Its uncontrollable. Its not that bad because we can always make up afterwards but I feel like our relationship its drifting apart. He tells me he loves me so much. And I dont know if Im "in love with him." I know I love him for sure. When we met and spent those 4 days together It was the Happiest days of my entire life and I was completely in love with him when we were together. but after he left and his mom took away his phone everythings has been getting worse and worse. I do not want to lose him. He is so important to me. Is it my depression that makes me feel as though I'm not "in love" or is it because when we met I was soo happy and then he had to leave and know I feel like I have forgotten how i felt when we were together? I honestly dont know and i need help please. Im sorry this was such a long read I just had to get this off my chest because my mind is close to exploding.

[Rugger]

Next time you post, try and breaking up the giant paragraph. Makes it a but hard to read.

First of all, I don't tink his mom is crazy for not liking you. You are some stranger to her, who met her child who is underage online. Most parents would be a little wary. She's allowed o take his phone away when he disobeys her as he is her child and she most likely pays for the phone. As the two of you are both minors, the only thing you can do is deal with it. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be.

Secondly, Stop using your depression as an excuse. If you keep hiding behind it for everything, it's only going to become a crutch. Are you in therapy? taking medication? If not, I would say get on that because it will help.

Thirdly, every relationship goes through a honeymoon phase, Maybe you've just passed out of that.

[parxnoia]

Thank you for your advice. Yes I am seeing a therapist I mentioned in the paragraph that I'm already being treated. I wasn't trying to use it as an excuse I was simply saying that my emotions towards my situation feel worse due to my depression. His mother is literally mentally crazy because he told me even his grandmother told me. She doesn't pay for his phone his father pays for his phone his parents are divorced and his father had told his mother not to take it away because he pays for it not her and she wont give it back even after 5 months.I'm sorry for my paragraph being confusing. Its only my first post and as I said before I only just made this account yesterday. Thank you for your advice though.

[myohdear]

The most important thing what i think is to always remember why you are together, why you want to be with him, and reassure each other. Remember that things have to get hard before it gets any easier. I have depression as well and it sucks to be in that state because it overshadows everything that feels good and it seems like there's no hope but don't let it get the best of you.

I know you are trying your best to keep this going but also think about your significant other because i'm sure that he's also trying his best. Remember that you always have a choice to make and don't let your depression tear down your relationship.

I know it's hard but you have to be strong and he needs you to be strong. I wish you best of luck.

[parxnoia]

I love your response. Thank you soo much it really means so much that you understand what I'm going through ill definitely try harder to be a better gf because I love him and now that I think about it. I've never seen things through his point of view. Ill do that from now on. Ill try my best to be stronger and not let my depression overshadow everything. My therapy is helping and since I started we have been having less arguments so hopefully ill get better with help from my therapist as well. Thank you so much honestly I really needed to hear that especially from someone who understands the difficulties of depression

[myohdear]

You're very welcome and i'm glad that it helped.
And i myself is struggling with depression and recently it got to the point where i ended up pushing away the one i care the most. I learned my lesson and i'll have to wait for her to come back to me. I myself need some help.

Don't let that happen. But that's very good that you are having less arguments...it will all get better all we need is time.

[parxnoia]

Yeah it is. You can get help. I had to get help for myself. I went to my therapist by myself because I knew I have depression and its been making my life too difficult so I went alone to get help for myself and I have been feeling more happier with each passing day. Even though many thing bring me back down its me who lets it. But I'm gonna be stronger from now on.

I think you should try talking to the girl You care about. Tell her your going to change and be a better you for her