Teens Tattoo?

[JeCummings]

My 17 year old girlfriend got a tattoo and she asked my opinion regarding it. Her father doesn't know and it was done in white ink near her private parts.

I told her the tattoo was shit and she consequently became mad. It's basically one of those tattoos that means nothing and is a primitive geometric property.

Thoughts? Am I in the wrong/right?

[snow_girl]

Don't think I didn't see "I told her the tattoo was shit and she looked like a prostitute but then the got mad" before you deleted it. You sound like a jet of liquid applied to part of the body for cleansing or medicinal purposes.

[JeCummings]

Don't think I didn't see "I told her the tattoo was shit and she looked like a prostitute but then the got mad" before you deleted it. You sound like a jet of liquid applied to part of the body for cleansing or medicinal purposes.

In my mind I was thinking that, but there is indeed a difference between what I think and do. Either way--stop flaming. You may be alluminati but that doesn't give you the right to talk down to the adopted folk. My flow is like a time bomb and I'm about to blow up. Mandatory evacuation every time I roll up.

[Photonut]

I think you said it too harshly tbh....if my boyfriend said something like that to me about something I really was excited about I would get mad/be hurt too (I have 4+ tattoos).

[ThothCreamPioneer]

I think you said it too harshly tbh....if my boyfriend said something like that to me about something I really was excited about I would get mad/be hurt too (I have 4+ tattoos).

Wait... You're telling me you'd rather be lied to?

[Photonut]

Wait... You're telling me you'd rather be lied to?

I did not say that at all, I said I think he said it too harshly. "Well if you like it, i'm glad you're happy baby but I'm not too particularly fond of it" would have been better, or something along those lines.

[JeCummings]

I think you said it too harshly tbh....if my boyfriend said something like that to me about something I really was excited about I would get mad/be hurt too (I have 4+ tattoos).

I agree.

[differentcountries]

You say earlier that you have Aspergers syndrome. That may be what gives you a hard time seeing that blunt honesty is generally not kind and loving (exept in some special cases). If you don't like her tattoo, you may let her know, but to elaborate how and why and compare her to people you dislike comes out as cruel. She is not REALLY asking your opinion, you know,; she is in fact fishing for your love, she wants a sign that you care for her! So you may say; darling, clearly we differ in our taste for tatoos. It is good that you otherwise are so pretty and wise etc. and that is why I love you. The more honest you are about negative things, also the more loving you should be, because otherwise people feel that you reject not only that one thing, but everything about them.

A rule of thumb: If girlfriend is embrasing her inner wild beast while you are giving her a mindblowing orgasm, then it may be ok to compare her to a sexworker (if you know the comparison turns her on). But unless she is about to come, comparing her to a prostitute is forbidden, it is the same as saying "I don't respect you and I want out of this relationship".

You hurt her feelings! Tell her you are sorry you did that. If you did not mean to upset her say so. If you feel sad by the thought of her becoming insulted by your words, say so. Buy her a small gift to patch things over, or write her a letter, or some other special thing that may make her happy. Let her know you will work with yourself to be a better boyfriend, a boyfriend who will support her.

By the way; My brother has Asperger syndrome and he took a coping course in how to deal with the diagnosis. He still insults people from time to time without meaning to, but less freuently so. And since he got the diagnosis we all know this is why he does it, it is not on spite or to show off. I wonder if you have considered taking a smiliar class, as it may benifit the way you interact with others. Also, if you girlfriend have any recourses about Asperger, so that she can understand what goes on and perhaps help you become better at communicating with her.

[CanadianGirl]

I feel like there are about three new troll accounts. Not super sly there.

[rubydissolution]

Do they have nothing better to do??

[kurbatskiy]

My 17 year old girlfriend got a tattoo and she asked my opinion regarding it. Her father doesn't know and it was done in white ink near her private parts.

I told her the tattoo was shit and she consequently became mad. It's basically one of those tattoos that means nothing and is a primitive geometric property.

Thoughts? Am I in the wrong/right?

I also think that you rather rigidly reacted to its tattoo. Perhaps, it is worth making amends before it? How about relationship tattoos?

[whatruckus]

I also think that you rather rigidly reacted to its tattoo. Perhaps, it is worth making amends before it? How about relationship tattoos?

This thread is over a year old and the OP is banned now.