I have fears, they are always the same fears. I don't know what to do..
Last night I got into a bit of a fight with my so, it was an accident but completely my fault. I have many things going though my mind and I try to share them with her but they end up coming out wrong. I want to work my fears out with her but she misunderstands what I am trying to say. I don't know if I should be keeping my fears to myself or continue to try and work them out with her.
My fears are basic and simple, I am sure many if not most of everyone on this site has had them at some point. I am afraid that I made the wrong choice in pursuing her. She has had a hard life and I just make it so much more complicated by being in it. She just informed me last night that her step dad lost his job and now they can't afford their house, they are being forced to move. She is constantly being bombarded with terrible luck and misfortune. I could go on and on (but won't out of respect for her) about the things that have happened in her life. She IS hurting, a lot. And here I am, 1800 miles away from her and I can't do anything to help her. I can't be there to support her and to give her a shoulder to cry on when she needs it. I can't hold her hand and tell her everything is going to be okay. I am just too far away. I love her deeply, I have never loved anyone so much in my entire life and I cannot see myself with anyone else or being able to love someone as much as I love her. But am I making the right choice by being in a relationship with her and potentially preventing her from finding a guy who can not only love her but also be there for her when she needs it? I know she loves me, I have no doubt but I am imprisoning her with my love. There is nothing more painful then watching someone you love so very deeply, hurt, and know that I cannot be there to comfort them.
I tried to explain how I was feeling to her but I just made things worse and confused her, she ended up telling me that if I was having second thoughts then I just needed to tell her and she would give me space. But this could not be any further from the truth, I am crying as I write this, I LOVE HER! I have no doubt that I want to be with her... I want to be with her for the rest of my life. But what are you supposed to do when you know that you are causing someone pain by not being able to comfort them, you love them deeply and want them to be happy, what am I supposed to do???
If my relationship with her ended, I don't know if I could ever love again. But I would do it for her because I love her so much.
~Douglas
Last night I got into a bit of a fight with my so, it was an accident but completely my fault. I have many things going though my mind and I try to share them with her but they end up coming out wrong. I want to work my fears out with her but she misunderstands what I am trying to say. I don't know if I should be keeping my fears to myself or continue to try and work them out with her.
My fears are basic and simple, I am sure many if not most of everyone on this site has had them at some point. I am afraid that I made the wrong choice in pursuing her. She has had a hard life and I just make it so much more complicated by being in it. She just informed me last night that her step dad lost his job and now they can't afford their house, they are being forced to move. She is constantly being bombarded with terrible luck and misfortune. I could go on and on (but won't out of respect for her) about the things that have happened in her life. She IS hurting, a lot. And here I am, 1800 miles away from her and I can't do anything to help her. I can't be there to support her and to give her a shoulder to cry on when she needs it. I can't hold her hand and tell her everything is going to be okay. I am just too far away. I love her deeply, I have never loved anyone so much in my entire life and I cannot see myself with anyone else or being able to love someone as much as I love her. But am I making the right choice by being in a relationship with her and potentially preventing her from finding a guy who can not only love her but also be there for her when she needs it? I know she loves me, I have no doubt but I am imprisoning her with my love. There is nothing more painful then watching someone you love so very deeply, hurt, and know that I cannot be there to comfort them.
I tried to explain how I was feeling to her but I just made things worse and confused her, she ended up telling me that if I was having second thoughts then I just needed to tell her and she would give me space. But this could not be any further from the truth, I am crying as I write this, I LOVE HER! I have no doubt that I want to be with her... I want to be with her for the rest of my life. But what are you supposed to do when you know that you are causing someone pain by not being able to comfort them, you love them deeply and want them to be happy, what am I supposed to do???
If my relationship with her ended, I don't know if I could ever love again. But I would do it for her because I love her so much.
~Douglas
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