I hate to make my first post here a cry for help, but at this point I don't know what to do. I'll start with the basics. I'm from the U.S., dating a girl from the Philippines. We've been together around 9 and a half months. Lately, she's been incredibly busy with school, and only just had a chance to really talk last night. She seemed happy to see me, but something was off. She started talking and easing her way in to breaking up. She said it was getting far too hard to continue dating with how busy she is. She told me it's not because of me, but that I distract her from school by talking to her for long periods of time, and that she doesn't want to keep leaving me for a week or two at a time. She said she's loosing her feelings for me because we never talk with how busy she is and she feels bad. She said she's too weak to keep doing this. She admitted she wants to give up because she believes she's a weak person. I pleaded with her to stay, and as far as I can tell she didn't actually end it.
We've been planning things out for our future since day one. We've known this wouldn't be easy, since she can't tell her parents, and we can't meet until she goes to college. A while back, she suggested going to college here, which at first sounded excellent, but this morning, she said she wasn't coming here anymore. I told her that I didn't feel this was the right place for her anyway. I was already going to tell her this before last night but didn't have a chance to.
I promised her in the first few days that I would't let her end things no matter how hard they got. I also promised I wouldn't give up. I don't believe she wants to just end this, and I told her that her not having time is fine with me, that I was already waiting two years to see her so a week or two didn't really matter, and I'm happy with what she gives me. She said she wasn't okay with it though, that she doesn't like doing this to people. She feels bad for never being here when I'm upset or something goes wrong, but I told her that she can just be there for me after, when she's available.
She said we could be friends and I told her we both know that isn't true. She disagreed, but I know that if she doesn't really see me now, she won't make time for me, and I'll continue wanting this and trying get her to fall again. Without any time, and no reason to make time to talk to me, she won't fall again. I don't want to just be friends and have all this die.
This morning she avoided talking about it, instead talking about where she is planning on going for college, maybe trying to show me that it's going to get harder. She left abruptly, maybe because I upset her or because she just needed to leave and sleep. I feel as if maybe her parents told her to go to sleep, since that's usually why she leaves at night. I'm hoping that tonight she will talk to me more, because it really seems like she still wants us to be together, and I told her if I'm a fool and she really is done, she needs to call me on skype and look me in the eyes. I also told her that even if she really does want this to end, there's things she needs know.
I've always known this wouldn't be easy, and would only keep getting harder. She's under way more pressure than any person ever should be to be a straight A student in school.
The whole conversation was with me talking and her typing on skype.
I'm really happy with her and I'll do whatever it takes for this to work. I'm totally in love with her. What do I do?
We've been planning things out for our future since day one. We've known this wouldn't be easy, since she can't tell her parents, and we can't meet until she goes to college. A while back, she suggested going to college here, which at first sounded excellent, but this morning, she said she wasn't coming here anymore. I told her that I didn't feel this was the right place for her anyway. I was already going to tell her this before last night but didn't have a chance to.
I promised her in the first few days that I would't let her end things no matter how hard they got. I also promised I wouldn't give up. I don't believe she wants to just end this, and I told her that her not having time is fine with me, that I was already waiting two years to see her so a week or two didn't really matter, and I'm happy with what she gives me. She said she wasn't okay with it though, that she doesn't like doing this to people. She feels bad for never being here when I'm upset or something goes wrong, but I told her that she can just be there for me after, when she's available.
She said we could be friends and I told her we both know that isn't true. She disagreed, but I know that if she doesn't really see me now, she won't make time for me, and I'll continue wanting this and trying get her to fall again. Without any time, and no reason to make time to talk to me, she won't fall again. I don't want to just be friends and have all this die.
This morning she avoided talking about it, instead talking about where she is planning on going for college, maybe trying to show me that it's going to get harder. She left abruptly, maybe because I upset her or because she just needed to leave and sleep. I feel as if maybe her parents told her to go to sleep, since that's usually why she leaves at night. I'm hoping that tonight she will talk to me more, because it really seems like she still wants us to be together, and I told her if I'm a fool and she really is done, she needs to call me on skype and look me in the eyes. I also told her that even if she really does want this to end, there's things she needs know.
I've always known this wouldn't be easy, and would only keep getting harder. She's under way more pressure than any person ever should be to be a straight A student in school.
The whole conversation was with me talking and her typing on skype.
I'm really happy with her and I'll do whatever it takes for this to work. I'm totally in love with her. What do I do?
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