Hi, reader!
Last summer I met a guy from the Netherlands (I'm in the eastern US) on another forum and we became friends pretty quickly. Eventually I started to fall for him and I got the feeling that he might like me too, so earlier this month, after some encouragement from another friend, I told him how I felt. He said that he was glad I told him and that he felt the same way, but he was too worried about the distance.
As it turns out, he told me about how he had an LDR before which ended badly (I hadn't known this) and that he is scared of something like that happening again. He said I'm one of his best friends and that he would definitely date me if he knew me in real life, but when it comes to an LDR he doesn't want to risk our friendship. Of course, I tried to be as understanding as possible and I told him we could move on. So we did, and now we've just been chatting about normal things like usual: music, movies, stuff we've been doing in real life, etc.
But I just can't seem to get over my feelings for him, and part of me wants to bring it up again. I think our friendship is strong enough that we could still be friends if it failed, and since our feelings for each other are both pretty strong, why not try it...? However, I'm aware that telling him this could backfire and he might get really upset at me... I wouldn't want him to feel like I'm trying to "convince" him to be in a relationship with me. I mean yeah the distance is pretty big, but I could probably visit him over the summer, though it could only be for a short time.
We are both 18 by the way. (So maybe not "teens" but... close enough.)
I guess I'm posting this here in order to get this off my chest and also to get some thoughts on the situation. I only know him on this particular forum (we've added each other on deviantArt but we don't talk much there); we've shared pictures of ourselves and clips of our voices with each other, but we haven't video chatted and I'm not sure if he'd be comfortable with that...
Of course my other option is just to try to move on from him. Maybe all this pining after him is really dumb and I need a metaphorical slap in the face? I have to remind myself that I'll be going off to college next fall, and I'll be meeting a lot of new people, and that being in an LDR at that stage in my life might start to feel... difficult. But at the same time I think he might be worth it.
Thank you very much if you read this whole thing. I know it's kinda long, but I would really appreciate any thoughts!
Last summer I met a guy from the Netherlands (I'm in the eastern US) on another forum and we became friends pretty quickly. Eventually I started to fall for him and I got the feeling that he might like me too, so earlier this month, after some encouragement from another friend, I told him how I felt. He said that he was glad I told him and that he felt the same way, but he was too worried about the distance.
As it turns out, he told me about how he had an LDR before which ended badly (I hadn't known this) and that he is scared of something like that happening again. He said I'm one of his best friends and that he would definitely date me if he knew me in real life, but when it comes to an LDR he doesn't want to risk our friendship. Of course, I tried to be as understanding as possible and I told him we could move on. So we did, and now we've just been chatting about normal things like usual: music, movies, stuff we've been doing in real life, etc.
But I just can't seem to get over my feelings for him, and part of me wants to bring it up again. I think our friendship is strong enough that we could still be friends if it failed, and since our feelings for each other are both pretty strong, why not try it...? However, I'm aware that telling him this could backfire and he might get really upset at me... I wouldn't want him to feel like I'm trying to "convince" him to be in a relationship with me. I mean yeah the distance is pretty big, but I could probably visit him over the summer, though it could only be for a short time.
We are both 18 by the way. (So maybe not "teens" but... close enough.)
I guess I'm posting this here in order to get this off my chest and also to get some thoughts on the situation. I only know him on this particular forum (we've added each other on deviantArt but we don't talk much there); we've shared pictures of ourselves and clips of our voices with each other, but we haven't video chatted and I'm not sure if he'd be comfortable with that...
Of course my other option is just to try to move on from him. Maybe all this pining after him is really dumb and I need a metaphorical slap in the face? I have to remind myself that I'll be going off to college next fall, and I'll be meeting a lot of new people, and that being in an LDR at that stage in my life might start to feel... difficult. But at the same time I think he might be worth it.
Thank you very much if you read this whole thing. I know it's kinda long, but I would really appreciate any thoughts!
) meeting each other is less complicated than if you were minors (you can use this as an argument if his former LDR happened when he was under 18).
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