I have been in a LDR for 1 year with a man 3 states away, over 1000 miles. If we are lucky we see each other once every month and a half. I'm not going to lie, this is one of the most difficult things i have ever done. I have been thinking about moving out there, however, he now might be moving to another country. He states that if he gets this new job everything will be better and his future will be secure. (Not that his current job is bad, he has a great job now) I feel like I am put on the back burner and that he doesn't care about this as much as me. I can't move to another country, especially for a man I am not even engaged to. I am hurt by his desire to put money in front of our relationship, but am i over reacting? if he decides to take this job, i feel like the only thing i can do is just end it. Seeing each other for once a year is not a relationship in my eyes.
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You should ask him where he sees you in his future. Is this move to another country a temporary thing and after a year he would be able to transfer back? Did he tell you he was applying for this job and what it would entail?
I do not think you are over-reacting. You deserve to have a relationship that you want. If physical contact on monthly or bi-monthly basis is your limit and you need that at a minimum, then there is nothing wrong with it.
I would have a conversation with him though what his plans are for the relationship and take it from there.
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