1 yr 8 months apart

[yea]

In February of this year I met a wonderful girl at a Pride event. We kept in contact and have now seen eachother 3 times in the space of 2 months despite the financial difficulty/the fact that she has a fulltime job and I am a fulltime student. We talk every day and send letters. We are only ever able to see eachother for a maximum period of 3 days if it's a long weekend. Feeling like this for another person is unfathomable to me. I feel as though she is my soulmate. We both desperately want this to work out longterm and have already discussed me moving there (typical lesbians) however, we cannot be together for another year and eight months. In January 2017 I will be moving to Spain for an entire year to study. Not only do we have to get through the rest of this year living in different cities but this time next year we will be living on separate sides of the world. We are not in a monogamous arrangement as we are both okay with us sleeping with other people and don't want monogamy to add a dimension of stress on the relationship. I don't know what to do. I don't know if it is possible to build a relationship when we have to be apart for almost 2 yrs? We both lead such busy lives but are willing to do whatever it takes to make this work. What should I do? is it possible for an arrangement like this to end in success? We are very open in our communication and I trust her entirely. Please help I don't know anyone that has had to deal with something like this. I desperately want this to work out for me

[differentcountries]

Reading this, my first thought is that you are lucky to have an end date. That geing said, it will be tough times living apart and switching to seeing each other less frequently.

January 2017 is a long time away. By then, hopefully you will have had some more time to get to know each other and perhaps spend a little more leanghty stretch of time together.

Are you currently sleeping with other people? Or is it more like a ok'ing it for the future?

SO and I, and many others on this forum, have done international long distance relationship for years. I can be done.

[MissingMyDutchLove]

In February of this year I met a wonderful girl at a Pride event. We kept in contact and have now seen eachother 3 times in the space of 2 months despite the financial difficulty/the fact that she has a fulltime job and I am a fulltime student. We talk every day and send letters. We are only ever able to see eachother for a maximum period of 3 days if it's a long weekend. Feeling like this for another person is unfathomable to me. I feel as though she is my soulmate. We both desperately want this to work out longterm and have already discussed me moving there (typical lesbians) however, we cannot be together for another year and eight months. In January 2017 I will be moving to Spain for an entire year to study. Not only do we have to get through the rest of this year living in different cities but this time next year we will be living on separate sides of the world. We are not in a monogamous arrangement as we are both okay with us sleeping with other people and don't want monogamy to add a dimension of stress on the relationship. I don't know what to do. I don't know if it is possible to build a relationship when we have to be apart for almost 2 yrs? We both lead such busy lives but are willing to do whatever it takes to make this work. What should I do? is it possible for an arrangement like this to end in success? We are very open in our communication and I trust her entirely. Please help I don't know anyone that has had to deal with something like this. I desperately want this to work out for me

Is it possible to build a relationship while you're apart? Yes. Otherwise there would be no one in a LDR and there are plenty! You build and grow and love in a different way when you're LD, but it doesn't mean that it isn't happening. You get to see each other frequently enough right now that you have been building CD too, just little bits at a time. The thing is that it isn't just about CD contact, but also what you do with the LD. You two have the opportunity to grow as individuals while you grow together. You can work on your communication and really, truly love that person because you know them inside and out. And the biggest thing? "We are willing to do whatever it takes to make this work". That is key. You both have to be in it and really want this to work. If you do, then absolutely this can work!

Yes, it is possible for it to end in success. I have been in an international LDR for a little over two and a half years. It hasn't always been easy, but knowing that we have made it through and are closing the distance soon makes it worth it. We love each other more than anything, and now we know that whatever we face in the future we can handle because we've been through hell and back and have still managed to come out stronger on the far side. You can do it too! Especially since you only have a year and 8 months to get through and then you can close the distance. Many of us take much longer to close the distance, and some never do. You guys are some of the lucky ones and the next two years will FLY by.