Hi, this is my first forum post so please hang in there. I could really use some advice...
My boyfriend of almost 4 years left 2 days ago to teach English in Japan for a year and I am having a really, really hard time. We have always been a couple that has our own independence, so it's not an issue of having nothing to do...more that our lives just feel so, so separate right now. We've lived together for 2 years, and having the apartment to myself is painful. A lot of his stuff is still there, which is great. It helps a lot with reassuring me that this is temporary. But while he's over there, communication is already so hard. The apartment he's in for the next 2 weeks doesn't have wifi, and neither of us can afford an international phone plan. We've already decided that at least once every couple days he will go to a cafe so we can skype, and then when he moves again it will be easier. But we're going from 2 people who lived together and always had a constant stream of communication going, even if the texts were spread out over hours because we were busy, to 2 people who aren't even awake and sleeping at the same time. I'm having a lot of difficulty with this. Does anyone have any insight into when it will get easier? It feels like I'm always just one step away from crying right now. But this is something we both want. We are both committed. We both have an end date. But I'm barely sleeping, and when I do wake up in the middle of the night, I roll over and grab my phone in the hopes that he's online. The loneliness is overpowering. I'll see him in 6 months when I go out to visit, so that's my goal right now. Just to get through 6 months. But when will it stop hurting so much?
My boyfriend of almost 4 years left 2 days ago to teach English in Japan for a year and I am having a really, really hard time. We have always been a couple that has our own independence, so it's not an issue of having nothing to do...more that our lives just feel so, so separate right now. We've lived together for 2 years, and having the apartment to myself is painful. A lot of his stuff is still there, which is great. It helps a lot with reassuring me that this is temporary. But while he's over there, communication is already so hard. The apartment he's in for the next 2 weeks doesn't have wifi, and neither of us can afford an international phone plan. We've already decided that at least once every couple days he will go to a cafe so we can skype, and then when he moves again it will be easier. But we're going from 2 people who lived together and always had a constant stream of communication going, even if the texts were spread out over hours because we were busy, to 2 people who aren't even awake and sleeping at the same time. I'm having a lot of difficulty with this. Does anyone have any insight into when it will get easier? It feels like I'm always just one step away from crying right now. But this is something we both want. We are both committed. We both have an end date. But I'm barely sleeping, and when I do wake up in the middle of the night, I roll over and grab my phone in the hopes that he's online. The loneliness is overpowering. I'll see him in 6 months when I go out to visit, so that's my goal right now. Just to get through 6 months. But when will it stop hurting so much?
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