I'm 19 and not engaged.
I agree that I don't really think it's an age issue but a maturity issue. I know a few couples that could probably handle marriage at my age. My parents were engaged at 19, married at 22, and have an amazing marriage. However, I also know many couples that are not mature enough to handle marriage. My friend just got married at 18. She's been married for 4 months now. They are having a very rough time currently (divorce has been mentioned) but are working through it. We'll see what happens.
I also think the length of the relationship is important. I would be wary of anyone getting married too early, although the older you are the less time is seen as acceptable.
I personally would not get married before the age of 21 (I want to drink at my own wedding!) and most likely not engaged until a year before the wedding. But that's just me. I also would not marry someone I hadn't spent a significant amount of time with in person. My SO and I are currently living together for the summer and I think it's good preparation.
I agree that I don't really think it's an age issue but a maturity issue. I know a few couples that could probably handle marriage at my age. My parents were engaged at 19, married at 22, and have an amazing marriage. However, I also know many couples that are not mature enough to handle marriage. My friend just got married at 18. She's been married for 4 months now. They are having a very rough time currently (divorce has been mentioned) but are working through it. We'll see what happens.
I also think the length of the relationship is important. I would be wary of anyone getting married too early, although the older you are the less time is seen as acceptable.
I personally would not get married before the age of 21 (I want to drink at my own wedding!) and most likely not engaged until a year before the wedding. But that's just me. I also would not marry someone I hadn't spent a significant amount of time with in person. My SO and I are currently living together for the summer and I think it's good preparation.
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