Wedding Vows

[Xanahtas]

For the past few weeks i have been thinking about wedding vows. Me and my SO had decided a while ago that we wanted to write our own because it means a lot to us to have personal ones.

Are you/Did you write your own vows? What will they/did they say? Your opinions?

Im just curious and think it would be interesting to read a few

[snow_girl]

I dont' think I'll write my own. I'm not really creative enough.

[mllebamako]

I can see myself writing my own vows but I don't think my SO would want to. He isn't very creative and not always good at expressing himself.

[nicole]

Mine are on here somewhere- we wrote letters, then locked them away to read during the ceremony. I'm probably going to bawl

[elina]

I don't think writing/reading vows is even a tradition in Finland O_o I/we haven't thought about it at all, really.. but I guess it would be nice to say a few words from the heart I wouldn't want to read a vow that I hadn't written myself.. so what if it's boring, at least it's coming from me

Edit. Just to add, like Nicole said, I'm probably gonna cry my eyes out XD

[Captivated]

We wrote our own vows. We just sent them over to a friend to make sure they're pretty much not completely out of sync with each other :P Since we won't know what each other said 'til the day of. My friend said that when she read his she teared up. Great - I'm going to be a crying mess next Saturday. Somebody get me some Xanax! lol

[floridaellen]

I think writing your own vows is so romantic! I think it's a great way to add a personal touch to the wedding. I would definitely cry.


I'm not going to do it though. I plan to get married in a Catholic ceremony. Every Catholic ceremony uses the same vows. That's important to me because of my faith. But I love it when other people write their own vows

[loveknowsnodistance27]

I love the idea of writing vows! I would like to write my own, but I doubt my SO will because he has such a hard time putting thoughts into words.

[lucybelle]

I hadn't even thought about this until my SO one day says "so do we have to write our own vows?"

Holy shit I forgot! I'm awful at weddings... jaja

But anyways, to answer your question I'm hoping the celebrant we have will do most of the talking. Although maybe I should discuss this with the SO...

[Zephii]

Vows are a bit different in Australia - they are a legal component of the ceremony, so like, you know how on youtube you see couples rambling on about why they love each other and such? Yeah, we can't do that here, it's against the rules. We also weren't given the option of having vows that didn't match (though that might have been a quirk of the celebrant?). It needed to be a specific promise, and we both had to say it for it to be legal (With names and titles switched of course). Obi picked examples of what he liked from a booklet, and I wrote our vows in a similar style (I have a lot of experience writing rituals, being Wiccan and all )
Here they are:

I call on these persons here present to witness that I Zephii,
in the name of the spirit of the Goddess that resides within us all,
by the life that courses within my blood and the love that resides within my heart,
take thee Obi to my hand, my heart and my spirit, to be my lawfully wedded husband.
To desire thee and be desired by thee, to possess thee and be possessed by thee,
in complete honesty without sin or shame, for naught can exist in the purity of my love for thee.
I promise to love thee wholly and completely without restraint, in sickness and in health,
in plenty and in poverty, for better or for worse, in this life and beyond,
where we shall meet, remember and love again.

[TwoThree]

Zephii, that was incredible! I really like your vows.

[TwoThree]

We wrote our own vows. We just sent them over to a friend to make sure they're pretty much not completely out of sync with each other :P Since we won't know what each other said 'til the day of. My friend said that when she read his she teared up. Great - I'm going to be a crying mess next Saturday. Somebody get me some Xanax! lol

So exciting!

[lademoiselle]

I think it's a very sweet idea, and I do love to hear what other couples come up with I doubt either me or my SO would want to write our actual vows, but I wouldn't rule out putting together a short speech of some sort to read at the reception!

[lyonsgirl]

I'd like to write my own, but I know my SO won't want to (he is always saying that I'm better with words than he is). But at the same time, I really want to read the "traditional" vows. Based on our conversations, our wedding day may not be super traditional, but we still want to have some elements of the "traditional" wedding ceremony.

[CaptainKaz]

We won't really get the opportunity to write/read our own vows in the quick little ceremony we're having, but I read in some news article somewhere (maybe even linked to on this site?) about a tradition in some country where couples write letters to each other just before they get married - when, in theory, they're the most in love - and keep them in case they ever run into tough relationship times in the future. Idea is to break out the letters, read them, and remember why you fell in love and got married in the first place. I love this idea, and it'll make up for the fact we don't get the chance to have our own vows.