There's something that has been gnawing on my mind for a few days. The feeling is coupled with anticipation and well, a bit of fear if I must admit. Recently I was talking to my SO and since I'm planning to spend several months with him starting in December, he told me that "If I fly you down here this winter, you should be prepared to marry me".
Now, my SO has actually already proposed to me a year ago. It was more like a "I definitely want to marry you one day" ring and less like a "We're getting married really soon" ring for me. I was completely thrilled, and I love my ring.
It occurred to me earlier that I am still so young! I've heard so many horror stories about marriage ruining relationships and I'm worried that it may happen to us if I do marry him in the winter. I love him to death. He is my absolute best friend. Even if we weren't in a relationship we would still be best friends just because of how much fun and laughter is involved with our interaction. He makes me so happy and he is the only man I've ever imagined myself marrying or having children with. Still, it terrifies me.
He seems so sure about his choice to marry me. I asked him if he was serious and he told me that he was 100% positive and he'd never find another girl that affects him in the ways that I do, so he doesn't even want to bother looking. I believe him when he says that and I guess that's what scares me the most. What if when we marry he changes his mind? What if he begins to feel trapped and changes all of a sudden?
I guess I'm afraid our relationship will change from its carefree, joking, good nature and turn serious all of a sudden and that it would ruin us.
I'm 19 and he is 21. We've known each other going on three years. I want to do it, I really do, but I'm terrified of the consequences.
Are any of you here married, or have gotten married at a young age? Did it change the dynamic of your relationship in anyway? How are things working out for you? Advice, experiences, and opinions are much appreciated.
Now, my SO has actually already proposed to me a year ago. It was more like a "I definitely want to marry you one day" ring and less like a "We're getting married really soon" ring for me. I was completely thrilled, and I love my ring.
It occurred to me earlier that I am still so young! I've heard so many horror stories about marriage ruining relationships and I'm worried that it may happen to us if I do marry him in the winter. I love him to death. He is my absolute best friend. Even if we weren't in a relationship we would still be best friends just because of how much fun and laughter is involved with our interaction. He makes me so happy and he is the only man I've ever imagined myself marrying or having children with. Still, it terrifies me.
He seems so sure about his choice to marry me. I asked him if he was serious and he told me that he was 100% positive and he'd never find another girl that affects him in the ways that I do, so he doesn't even want to bother looking. I believe him when he says that and I guess that's what scares me the most. What if when we marry he changes his mind? What if he begins to feel trapped and changes all of a sudden?
I guess I'm afraid our relationship will change from its carefree, joking, good nature and turn serious all of a sudden and that it would ruin us.
I'm 19 and he is 21. We've known each other going on three years. I want to do it, I really do, but I'm terrified of the consequences.
Are any of you here married, or have gotten married at a young age? Did it change the dynamic of your relationship in anyway? How are things working out for you? Advice, experiences, and opinions are much appreciated.
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