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**princessmaria** · August 29, 2013, 09:29 AM

I'm sorry! The good news is that you still will be marrying the love of your life. Even though I've never planned a marriage, I totally understand the feeling of having to postpone plans. Being the plan-freak that I am, it's a frustrating feeling and I'm sorry you have to wait longer to tie the knot. It'll all be worth it in the end.

**Kitty Boo** · August 29, 2013, 09:36 AM

I'm sorry to hear that! But just try to think of it this way: marriage or no marriage, you are still together, and one day sooner or later, you will be marrying the love of your life! Besides, if you were to get married now, considering he's still in Japan, you probably wouldn't be able to start off married life as you'd like to! If you wait till he's back, at least you wouldn't have to say goodbye after the wedding and miss out on the lovely memories you'd be making as a newly wed couple. However, don't give up on wedding planning right now! If you get all your ideas down, it will make it that much easier when the time comes! Just consider it some extra time to discuss and play about with your ideas together! ^_^

Good luck, and don't be sad! *huggles*

**ushiwakafox** · August 29, 2013, 12:52 PM

Originally posted by princessmaria View Post

I'm sorry! The good news is that you still will be marrying the love of your life. Even though I've never planned a marriage, I totally understand the feeling of having to postpone plans. Being the plan-freak that I am, it's a frustrating feeling and I'm sorry you have to wait longer to tie the knot. It'll all be worth it in the end.

I'm totally a planner too, that's what makes this so much more frustrating and upsetting for me. My fiance is much more laid back lol it makes me so mad XD. And you're right, I'm trying to keep in mind that at least I still have him and eventually we will be able to tie the knot.

**ushiwakafox** · August 29, 2013, 12:56 PM

Originally posted by Kitty Boo View Post

I'm sorry to hear that! But just try to think of it this way: marriage or no marriage, you are still together, and one day sooner or later, you will be marrying the love of your life! Besides, if you were to get married now, considering he's still in Japan, you probably wouldn't be able to start off married life as you'd like to! If you wait till he's back, at least you wouldn't have to say goodbye after the wedding and miss out on the lovely memories you'd be making as a newly wed couple. However, don't give up on wedding planning right now! If you get all your ideas down, it will make it that much easier when the time comes! Just consider it some extra time to discuss and play about with your ideas together! ^_^

Good luck, and don't be sad! *huggles*

You know, what you said pretty much helped solidify our decision. All last night and this morning I've been jumping back and forth trying to figure out for sure if we should just jump and do it and hope it works out or play it safe and wait. You're totally right, it would suck to be newly weds and not get to spend that time together as newly weds. If we wait till he's done in Japan, he can take some leave, we can get married and have our honeymoon, and I can go with him to his next assignment. Granted there will be some delay to me getting to go with him, but it shouldn't be more than a few weeks or months hopefully.

Thank you both! I definitely needed some reassurance!

**Kitty Boo** · August 29, 2013, 01:57 PM

Originally posted by ushiwakafox View Post

You know, what you said pretty much helped solidify our decision. All last night and this morning I've been jumping back and forth trying to figure out for sure if we should just jump and do it and hope it works out or play it safe and wait. You're totally right, it would suck to be newly weds and not get to spend that time together as newly weds. If we wait till he's done in Japan, he can take some leave, we can get married and have our honeymoon, and I can go with him to his next assignment. Granted there will be some delay to me getting to go with him, but it shouldn't be more than a few weeks or months hopefully.

Thank you both! I definitely needed some reassurance!

I'm glad we could be of some help! A wedding's a very special thing, and you'd want it to be as perfect as it could be ^_^ It'll all be worth the wait in the end, and the only significant difference would be the fact that you'd be legally husband and wife ... but at the end of the day, either way, you'd still have to be in an LDR. If you wait it out, you'll be able to have the best start to married life as possible.

And that sounds like a wonderful plan! A few weeks or months apart before you can join him, after you've had your marriage, spent a good amount of time together, had your honeymoon... would be nowhere near as bad as getting married, and having to say goodbye to your husband practically straight after! Just remember that either way, you are going to get married, and you still are together. And if your love has survived this long, it can definitely make it through this. ^_~

Good luck, oh and also, I almost forgot! Congratulations on your engagement. I'm really happy for you both ^_^ x

**ushiwakafox** · August 29, 2013, 06:18 PM

Originally posted by Kitty Boo View Post

I'm glad we could be of some help! A wedding's a very special thing, and you'd want it to be as perfect as it could be ^_^ It'll all be worth the wait in the end, and the only significant difference would be the fact that you'd be legally husband and wife ... but at the end of the day, either way, you'd still have to be in an LDR. If you wait it out, you'll be able to have the best start to married life as possible.

And that sounds like a wonderful plan! A few weeks or months apart before you can join him, after you've had your marriage, spent a good amount of time together, had your honeymoon... would be nowhere near as bad as getting married, and having to say goodbye to your husband practically straight after! Just remember that either way, you are going to get married, and you still are together. And if your love has survived this long, it can definitely make it through this. ^_~

Good luck, oh and also, I almost forgot! Congratulations on your engagement. I'm really happy for you both ^_^ x

It is a special thing, and I want to make sure that things go smoothly. I was just so eager, we've been together for so long lol. But you're right, we've made it this far, two more years won't kill us i guess

Aw thank you! My spirits definitely are lifted now

**Kitty Boo** · August 29, 2013, 07:40 PM

Originally posted by ushiwakafox View Post

It is a special thing, and I want to make sure that things go smoothly. I was just so eager, we've been together for so long lol. But you're right, we've made it this far, two more years won't kill us i guess

Aw thank you! My spirits definitely are lifted now

I know what you mean, but hey, at least now you can practically guarantee it will go smoothly! Hehe. And yeah, sometimes excitement can get the better of us and cloud our judgement a little! But as you said, you've been together so long ... it's only going to get better. ^_~ Besides, you're engaged now, all you really have to do now is sign a document. You've already pledged yourselves to each other for life, he's practically your hubby already hehe. ^_^

Aww I'm so happy to hear that! Stay strong, you're as good as married already hehe. And good luck to both of you for the future. *huggles*

**floridaellen** · August 30, 2013, 11:15 PM

I'm so sorry that your wedding had to be postponed

I don't know much about the military but from my friends' experiences I know they make wedding planning difficult. At least now you have a few more years to plan and can make your wedding absolutely amazing!

**ushiwakafox** · August 31, 2013, 12:14 AM

Originally posted by floridaellen View Post

I'm so sorry that your wedding had to be postponed

I don't know much about the military but from my friends' experiences I know they make wedding planning difficult. At least now you have a few more years to plan and can make your wedding absolutely amazing!

I thought it wouldn't be so bad but from the very start it's been one thing after another, I couldn't even think about booking a venue without worrying so much about cancellations due to deployment and other stuff. I'm still a bit sad, but it will pass. Thank you for your reassurance

I just saw that your big day is the day after our intended date! Congratulations, and good luck with the planning!

**Yaaamiii** · September 4, 2013, 03:48 PM

Aw gee, I'm sorry that happened.

That would have made me so upset. But it is what it is...at least you guys are still gonna get married ^^. The trouble we've been having so far is figuring out how much everything costs ;(. We have like a (hopefully) 5k wedding (wish us luck D

. We've even had to go for an afternoon wedding and just serve a bunch of appetizers instead of an actual sit down meal...jmm

**SJ22** · September 4, 2013, 03:53 PM

I believe everything happens for a reason, so I am sure there is a good one for this.
Maybe you'll find more amazing unique stuff for the wedding now

**ushiwakafox** · September 5, 2013, 10:35 PM

Originally posted by Yaaamiii View Post

Aw gee, I'm sorry that happened.

That would have made me so upset. But it is what it is...at least you guys are still gonna get married ^^. The trouble we've been having so far is figuring out how much everything costs ;(. We have like a (hopefully) 5k wedding (wish us luck D

. We've even had to go for an afternoon wedding and just serve a bunch of appetizers instead of an actual sit down meal...jmm

Absolutely, we've been dating for so long I'm just enjoying being engaged for a while

Yea that's what I was dealing with too, trying to keep track of costs. I was/am keeping a binder with all the categories of the ceremony like venues, florists, bakery, etc and would keep a price range of the different venues and stuff I would look at.
You know, I kinda like the idea of just serving appetizers instead anyway. It feels less formal. It's a great way to keep costs down, and you can have more variety too. Nothing wrong with that

**ushiwakafox** · September 5, 2013, 10:42 PM

Originally posted by SJ22 View Post

I believe everything happens for a reason, so I am sure there is a good one for this.
Maybe you'll find more amazing unique stuff for the wedding now

That's literally my philosophy, so I'm usually a pretty optimistic person because of it

And you're right, with the extra time and more reliable dates in the future, we'll be able to have an even nicer wedding.

My SO and I actually were discussing things the other day, and he actually thought it would be a good idea to just have a legal marriage by a JP if he's able to take leave still, and have the ceremony when he comes back. That way we get those added benefits from the military, and when he leaves for his next assignment I'll be able to go immediately with him instead of having to wait. Of course this still all rides on his ability to come home in May, but if he isn't able to, we don't lose any money. So I'm pretty excited about this decision, I think it's perfect. Get a cute dress, have my family come down and after the wedding we can all go to a nice restaurant as a big family. There's tons of super cute bed and breakfasts in the neighboring towns we could go to for our honeymoon. I'm super psyched!! And much less stressed and paranoid lol

**ushiwakafox** · September 5, 2013, 10:44 PM

Thank you everyone for all your advice and support! I appreciate every comment so much, they all mean a lot to me <3

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