We are getting Married - Where do i start?

[lyonsgirl]

Thats all being dealt with I got no worries about that His officier is speeding things up.

Wait... officers can do that? I had no idea.

[LadyDaemon]

Wait... officers can do that? I had no idea.

It's not as quick as you might think. They may tell you that's what's happening,but this countries military moto is 'Hurry up and wait.'

[lyonsgirl]

It's not as quick as you might think. They may tell you that's what's happening,but this countries military moto is 'Hurry up and wait.'

Oh absolutely. A dear friend of mine from high school joined the Air Force as an officer (he got his Bachelor's and then realized he wanted to be an Airman) in about March 2012. He finally started OTS in May 2013.

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaanyway.

[LadyDaemon]

Oh absolutely. A dear friend of mine from high school joined the Air Force as an officer (he got his Bachelor's and then realized he wanted to be an Airman) in about March 2012. He finally started OTS in May 2013.

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaanyway.

Yeah,my fiance is a US Navy veteran and even now after he's been out for 5 years,he's trying to get housing benefits from them for school and we've been waiting for over 3 months now and still have to wait another 60 - 90 days before he'll see his money. Like I said,hurry up and wait.

Anywayyyy,sorry for hijacking your thread for a second. As stated before .

[Dezface]

Thats all being dealt with I got no worries about that His officier is speeding things up.

I'm fairly certain there's a statutory wait no matter where he's located. Plus, if the wife wants to throw a wrench in things, there's nothing an officer can do to fix that. I can tell you're excited and congrats but please realize that you're taking on a lot. Divorces and immigration are both Very heavy legal processes. It's incredibly likely you'll have a hang up on one or both ends. You truly can not expect that everything will go exactly how you plan it. I would really, strongly advise he get his divorce taken care of before you plan on immigrating. I know you probably see that as unnecessary but his still being married can definitely haunt you while you're in the midst of planning all this.

[MissButterfly]

Congratulations! Just wondering... Have you ever carefully read this thread? I feel like you're sharing a bit too much specific information about your SO on here... We know his name, where he's going to be deployed, you have his picture up on here... Just protect him and yourself. Anyone can read this. Anyway, good luck with the visa stuff!

[conejita_hada]

Congrats on the engagement! I think everyone has good advice to offer. The US military has the "hurry-up and wait" thing going for it - definitely. I worked with immigration processes for asylees and refugees in the US (mainly green card applications, also fiance visas, etc., nonprofit agency not USCIS) and can already tell you USCIS is not going to like at all that he was married, divorced quickly, and then married you in a short-ish time frame. There is a chance they'll assume it's a fake marriage in order for you to get to the US. There were several asylee applications where the wife and/or children did not get approved because USCIS thought it was fishy. Just make sure you have everything thoroughly explained.

As people have said, read-up on everything. It appears daunting at first but it's understandable once you break everything down and get to know it. It might be beneficial to have a consultation with a pro-bono immigration lawyer. I don't know of any agencies off the top of my head but I say pro-bono because you don't necessarily need a lawyer and since pro-bonos are free, they're generally more willing to give you the advice you need rather than what they want. Either you or your fiance can discuss with them (usually you can get either initial internet chat of 30 min phone call) your specific situation, that he's in the process of divorce and how long you've been a couple, etc.

Best of luck with everything!

[Louise_B]

She makes a very valid point. Can't start planning a wedding till he can actually get married.

I don't think there is anything wrong with getting everything in line for when the divorce is complete. And thats why our wedding has been planned and everything is in Order.

[snow]

I don't think there is anything wrong with getting everything in line for when the divorce is complete. And thats why our wedding has been planned and everything is in Order.

Wow I am really impressed!!!
We started planning, but we are far from having everything done :P
Plus we might have to plan a Plan B, in case the visa gets approved much sooner / much later than we hope for :P

[Kanga]

Congrats! I don't know how I missed this thread. I can't contribute because I'm not in a international relationship. I think it would be better to start sooner rather than later, and I believe there is a website to help guide you, but I'm can't remember what it's called.

[Laural007]

Nothing of help to add but I wanted to say congratulations! I hope everything goes smoothly for the two of you!