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    strange logistics of a proposal

    OK, this is a bit of a weird situation which I wasn't expecting. My SO and I have talked about marriage for a while now, so we both know where we're aiming, and I know that at some point in the future he will propose, I'll say yes, we'll get married etc etc. Being adorably traditional, my SO wanted to wait until he'd spoken to my dad during his visit over Christmas (and my dad just said "Well, it's nothing to do with me!").

    So then the next step was for my SO to find a ring. My grandmother's engagement ring is an heirloom in my family which isn't being used and my mother recently suggested that I might like to have it as my engagement ring "when the time comes" (both my brother and sister are already married and have no use for it). It's a beautiful ring and I'd love to have a connection to my grandmother as my engagement ring.

    My SO likes the idea, but pointed out that we might now have some difficulty logistically in terms of when, where and how he can propose! He doesn't have the ring, so either I'd have to take it over with me and give it to him to give to me (!), or he'd have to come over and get it - but I'm not sure my mother would release it into his control without it going pretty much straight on my finger!

    Any ideas how we might deal with this problem? My mother is a protective both of me and the "family jewels" and doesn't entirely approve of my plans to marry a cowboy, but I don't want ring logistics to ruin every single chance of romance featuring in his proposal to me. For all I know he has a plan to take me riding on a prairie somewhere and produce a ring from a sagebrush bush...
    London girl, American cowboy. "Like a western Dirty Dancing."
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    #2
    Sounds like he will have to propose close to your mother, or without ring, or with a different ring.
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      #3
      Why not propose without the ring? You could then get the ring to wear. I don't see why you have to absolutely have to have that ring with you when he proposes. The point is that he is going to propose!!! Yay! How awesome.

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        #4
        Unless you plan on proposing to him, let him figure that out. Don't take away the joy and surprise of your wedding proposal -- it will make for a memorable story to tell the kids and grandkids.


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          #5
          He can get a different ring to propose with and then switch it out =] And I agree with the above. Tell him to figure it out =]

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            #6
            I find it strange that your mom wouldn't be willing to give him the ring. If she's willing for you to have it as an engagement ring, it's only logical.



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              #7
              I told my SO I'm totally okay with being proposed to with a ring-pop candy, adorable and delicious plus fun pictures to taunt friends when they want to "see" the ring. Maybe suggest to him that the ring can be substituted during the proposal, if he's okay with it since it's too valuable to go through the mail and you bringing it to him will take away from the mystery and romanticized surprise of an engagement. If he wants some fake ring ideas, Target, Walmart, Nordstrom Rack, etc. all have fake/dress-up engagement/wedding rings that are inexpensive and will hold the place for the short time until the real ring is provided.
              When two hearts are meant for each other, no distance is too far,
              no time is too long, and no other love can break them apart.

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                #8
                Thanks for all your suggestions. I like the idea of a fake ring - he's always joked that he'll get me a $5 gumball machine ring, so maybe that's the way forward...
                London girl, American cowboy. "Like a western Dirty Dancing."

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