How old are/ were you when you married?

[Hannah]

I'm only 18 and he's only 20, so I feel stupid and naive, but I really wanted to get married so badly. I wouldn't want to get married right away (like others, I would like to wait until my mid-20s), but is it so horrible to get engaged this young? I know people will make judgments all the time (heck, I'd judge myself too), but I truly do want to spend the rest of my life with him. From a practical point of view, too!

[ChrisxTosha]

He and I are getting married at 18. I actually just went on my first dress-shopping event today.


We decided to get married, officially, on our 1 year anniversary. For the official engagement to happen, he wants to get on one knee with a ring. So that will most likely be after he returns from Basic Training for the Army.

[Hannah]

My SO is joining the military too! He'll be in the Navy.

[nic&matt]

I know this is weird, but it's kinda the opposite for my BF and I. He's 2-3 years older than me and he's in college. We've defintely talked about it but it scares the begeez out of me! I love him and I really do want to spend the rest of my life with him, more than anything. I'm afraid we're so young, that if it falls through all I'll be left with is the gushy love talk to remember it by...
My BF on the other hand is all for it, tells me constantly, but is set on doing it only after he's graduated from college and has a job to support me as a husband.
We're doing great so far, and we have a long way to go. We've defintely done the "honeymoon" stage and we're way past that. We've had plenty of arguments and conflicts but we communicate really well and...I don't know...I connect with him better than my best friend.
We hope it works out, but we're waiting till we're old enough to make sure. We also go on the basis: "if it's meant to be, it'll still be there tomorrow". We're looking at 5 more years. He'll be 25 and I'll be 22.

[Riyko]

I want to get married when i'm 27 (i've always said that even as a kid) which i'm almost 2 years away from.

[Hannah]

My bf is also very big into getting married, but I think your philosophy is right-on. And we're almost the same age with the same age difference!

[nerdgirl]

i hope that it will be before i turn 25 lol (i'm 19 now) i would like to have children before i'm 30 but eh you never know what's gonna happen.

side note: my parents have been married for 22 years and they got married when my mom was 19 and my dad was 18. they are still happily married my mom still writes S loves D on EVERYTHING lol it's cute i want that

[leonsfangirl]

I got married at 26, we were together for 8 years before we got married,together for 10 1/2 total.

[alx5150]

However the distance gets closed really determines how long we are from that. I've always looked at after 4 years in college, although I'm probably going to be in college for 6. I guess we'll see how our finances and such turn out. So I'm looking at 23/24ish+

[ms3]

Eh, I personally believe in waiting. I mean, if he/she is truly the right person, then he/she will still be there in a few years, right? And then you've had that time to get to know each other very well and deal with each others ups and downs. You know how to fight with each other, and how to resolve it. I wouldn't personally want to jump into something right away, especially as I believe that all relationships have a "honeymoon period" where of course everything is lovey-dovey and wonderful--you need to get past that to know if you'll truly last.

I think the same as squiddie: The actual wedding is not that important to me, what counts is just being united with your loved one. I can't really imagine that just being married will change much in our relationship, will it? Still, I do want a wedding ceremony.
I never thought I would get married much before 30, but in order to become CD our governments virtually force us to get married. Thus, we will get married this year, a bit more than 3 years after we started our relationship (so definitely past the honeymoon period) - I will be close to 26, she will be 33.

[London-FortCollins]

I'm 23 and my SO is 25, he proposed last month.

We're aiming to get married spring 2012, likely to be just before my 25th birthday. He'll be 27. Not a bad age I think, personally - about spot on

I personally dont believe in getting married too young, or too early in a relationship. (Although how you define either of those varies greatly! )

I feel that you need to grow and find out who YOU are before you can expect someone else to. I also believe when your with someone you need to know them, and who you both are as a couple before you can decide to spend your whole lives together.

I also agree that you need to get past the 'honeymoon period' so you can learn if the two of you together are actually capable of working out indifferences, learning and growing from them. Otherwise your only gonna' learn them the hard once the actual honeymoon period is over. IMHO

[LotusWing]

I'm turning 27 this month, and my fiance is 3 months older than me.
We got engaged last year in August, and we plan to marry in 2012. We need to get the K1 first before we can marry.

[milaya]

As things are now, I'll probably be married when I'm 21... (which I am now), unless our current plans change. Meaning one of us could change our mind, could might as well be me. I have a lot of thinking to do the next 2 months, but on the same time I have to prepare if we do decide to go through with it.

[Engel]

I always was a girl that said she would never get married. But i guess is just a matter of the right person. I still think im too young now (im 22, he is 24), and that you should be like 5 years together, and at least 1 year or 2 living together before you get married. i mean, if its gonna be forever, waiting a little wont kill.


Nowadays, I can see me happily married with my SO in some years from now. we had one year long distance, one year together, now a couple of months of me with my family in brazil before i go back to germany for him. <3


We got together when I was 20 and he 22. So, getting married when Im 25, or getting engaged at 25 and marrying at 26 sounds perfect for me. he would be 27 or 28 by them.

and having a kid between 26 and 29, not before, not after.

[thatstormynight]

He's been thinking about it for three years, but I only recently started considering it.
He has told me that if he had the money, he would marry me tomorrow
I'm 19 and he's 21 (the same age my parents were when they tied the knot!).
I already have a date picked out in 2016 (because that day is special & and falls on a weekend in 2016),
so by then I will be 24 and he will be 25!
I think that is the absolute perfect age to get married. We will both be out of university, have careers, and enough money for the future.
Three years of marital bliss and I think by 27 I'll be ready to have kids.
I told him I at least need a year to prepare a wedding so, engagement around 22-23? haha. Not that I'm planning ahead or anything.
I think a promise ring might be under my christmas tree this year

The future just makes me so excited, I can't help but dream!