First post here, but in a moral dilemma for proposing.

[TattooJay1982]

Hi all, my name is Jayson and I've really enjoyed this site. A little background information on me and a problem I'm not sure how to approach.

I'm 33 years old and have been in the US Navy for the past 12 years (only 8 more years until I retire!). So here is my problem. I'm flying back to Japan in September to propose to her, but her Mother and Brothers live in the Philippines. I've made plans to go with her in December to meet the WHOLE family, that's like brothers, sisters, and all her cousins! ( A little scary, lol). I'm not sure if its right to propose before I meet her family or not, BUT her mom added me as a friend on Facebook and told me "please take care of my daughter". Should I take that as a sign of approval? I don't want to tell her mom because she might tell her, as I want to keep this a surprise when I arrive in September.

[Redheart14]

It's up to you. But I'd personally wait until you meet the family. If you haven't met them before you propose it might cause some tension from her family. It might help you too to meet them all first. But it's really your choice.

[Miasmata]

I'd also suggest doing it after meeting the family, to give you that extra security, but the choice is definitely yours. I don't think you can really do wrong here.

[TattooJay1982]

Thanks for the replys. Her and I have talked about marriage a little bit. We've known each other for almost 5 years now. I think shes knows Ill be proposing when I return in September.

[AnnaElizabeth]

Let it be a surprise then. Wait until the day comes.