....of Honour

[Karringtyn]

I should call her/him my alternative spouse - in the event a plane lands on my SO during our wedding. He needs a second. Right? Right?

In all seriousness, I don't even think I'll have anyone to stand for me. I don't have any close, personal friends other than my SO that I would consider for an MOH position. That makes me kinda pathetic.

Doesn't make you pathetic my dear...quite the contrary.

Now you guys know I was married twice. I am going to recap each of them.

Don't hold it against me and don't laugh too hard.

First wedding..(marriage lasted maybe two weeks...divorce a year later finally)...

Rainbow.

Yes you read it right.

Imagine sherbet.

August 4th, 1990.

Dark Pink-Maid of Honor...Pink, baby blue, yellow, lavender, teal...bridesmaids.

Me...

Sequin...BIG white fufu dress...long a** train....tiara veil...I could barely fit through the door.

Men...Him...White tux.

All the rest...Grey tux..with matching cumerbund and tie...(yes with the rainbow girls)..

Oh goodness I can hardly stand thinking about all the fufu this wedding entailed....omg. It has been nearly 21 years..I can't even remember what my bands looked like..(I am old.).

Wedding number two. The one that lasted 14 years.

February 11th, 1995.

Black and Burgundy.

Everything.

My dress was adorable. I was tiny...(very much in the throes of my anorexia)...the dress now doesn't fit my 11 year old...but anyway...It was the first one I looked at...tea length..white...beautiful...and I paid..75 bucks. LOVE this dress.

This wedding?

Vegas baby. Elvis and Hilary Clinton as my witnesses and I will be all set.

Sorry to Hijack your thread Zephhhhh...but it's a story I had to tell.

[Zephii]

It was a great story Luce! Where's the pictures eh?

Silviar, I hope having no MOH doesn't make a person pathetic... coz I'm not having one either. Bugger that for a laugh, I've got enough drama.
But as for the second/back-up husband, tradtionally that's what the best man is for. If your groom dies, the best man scores himself a lady in a fufu and a free wedding.

[mllebamako]

Luce I soooooo want to see pictures of the rainbow wedding! haha.

[Caity]

I always had the idea that the maid of honour was the bride's equivalent to the groom's best man. We also don't use the term matron of honour here.

[Mizpah]

It does tend to be more of an American thing, but it stems from the tradition of a bride having a Maid AND Matron of Honor to symbolize her life before and after the marriage. I was never a very traditional person, so it only suited I wasn't a traditional bride. I DIYed just about everything, made my fifteen year old sister my Maid of Honor, used local vendors, and had so many things (including his wedding band) custom made. We wrote our own ceremony and vows, had vow cards, a ring disc for the ring warming, an Apache wedding blessing, etc. Planned to have a BBQ reception (until my Father-in-Law about had a coronary and his mom 'mysteriously' offered to pay for a sit-down reception), even then we planned to have a candy buffet, a photobooth complete with props, and other fun things at the reception. Then...we cancelled it an eloped at the local Detention Center with two friends, and then had a private ceremony on the beach where we exchange rings and vows, and had our own little ring warming. One of my friends made up titles for her girls and her now-husband made up titles for his, and it was awesome. Have fun with it, and don't let The Knot warp you too much

[Casey]

Hey just to add in on the Aust vs USA terms - I'm from Aust and everyone I know calls them maid of honour or matron of honour. Its the same as the US - you pretty well pick your fave to have the bigger responsibilities like witness your wedding certificate, plan your wedding shower and hens party etc. I doubt I'll have a maid of honour, mainly cause my bridesmaids will be my two little sisters and my best friend, and it seems silly to call one of them a maid of honour. I definately won't be having a matron of honour, mainly because I'll be the first one getting married out of my friends so no one else will be married. (Well as far as I know at this stage!)
Haha I just thought about it, my hens night will be very small because my little sister will only be 14, the other one will have just turned 18, and my best friend will be 21 - so only the middle sister and my best friend will be able to come out with me! We will have to do an underage activity too then.

[folclor]

From what I understand the maid or matron of honor is usually either a best friend or a sister. Most of the people whose weddings I've been do just have their eldest sister as the maid or matron of honor. ^^;;

[London-FortCollins]

I always had the idea that the maid of honour was the bride's equivalent to the groom's best man. We also don't use the term matron of honour here.

Yup, thats the same as it is in the UK. Generally called "Maid of Honour" and your best friend or sister - equivelent of the Best Man. Personally mine will be my sister - although I havnt officially asked her yet!

but it stems from the tradition of a bride having a Maid AND Matron of Honor to symbolize her life before and after the marriage.

Interesing, I didnt know that

I DIYed just about everything, made my fifteen year old sister my Maid of Honor, used local vendors, and had so many things (including his wedding band) custom made. We wrote our own ceremony and vows, had vow cards, a ring disc for the ring warming, an Apache wedding blessing, etc. Planned to have a BBQ reception (until my Father-in-Law about had a coronary and his mom 'mysteriously' offered to pay for a sit-down reception), even then we planned to have a candy buffet, a photobooth complete with props, and other fun things at the reception. Then...we cancelled it an eloped at the local Detention Center with two friends, and then had a private ceremony on the beach where we exchange rings and vows, and had our own little ring warming. One of my friends made up titles for her girls and her now-husband made up titles for his, and it was awesome. Have fun with it, and don't let The Knot warp you too much

Thats very much how I want our wedding to be. OURS. Whatever we want, however we want it. And yup - DEFINITLY lots of deserts! Lol, I love that in the end you eloped - very brave thing to do!

Whats ring warming? :S

[Trethsparr]

But as for the second/back-up husband, tradtionally that's what the best man is for. If your groom dies, the best man scores himself a lady in a fufu and a free wedding.

If that's true... nothing better happen to my SO, then. @_@

[heatherotic]

My Maid of Honor was my bestest friend....and she did the bridal shower and my bacholorette party. She also wore a slightly different dress...then get this...my Mom was my Matron of Honor..and she wore a dress totally different...

I was SOOO into weddings back then...haha I was a freak.

First, I don't think that makes you a freak at all. I actually LOVEEE the idea.
Second, YOU SAID BESTEST!!! I'm so glad I'm not the only one that says that!
And third, I wanna say again that I love the idea of having to MOHs, especially your mom. My momma is my best friend and I think this would be an awesome way to show her that she is always going to be important.

So if you don't mind, I believe I'm going to steal that idea, thankyouverymuch.



Also, hahahaha, look at me, planning the wedding and we're not even engaged! :]

[heatherotic]

I should call her/him my alternative spouse - in the event a plane lands on my SO during our wedding. He needs a second. Right? Right?

I read this like 5 minutes ago and I'm still laughing. My family now thinks I'm insane.
But seriously, that was awesome.


And yes, your fiance totally needs a second. :]