who does the proposing? o.O

[LostInLove]

It would mean a lot to me if he proposed. That said, if he took too long I would probably end up bringing up the subject. I'm a little impatient. :P

[Dziubka]

I think if my SO ever proposes it will be after we discussed getting married and both agreed. And I'll probably help him pick out a ring. So of course he'll know my answer. But just like you guys, he needs to get down on his knee!

This.
I think such a big decision should be made by both partners together, otherwise the proposal could turn into a really awkward moment. Plus it's not something I want to decide on in that very moment. Even if you're not convinced, with a guy on his knee, that look on his face and a ring in his hand, it's kind of hard to say no... Imho not the best circumstances to actually decide on such a life-altering matter.

We've already discussed it, chosen a year and a month and when we were talking on Saturday my boyfriend even decided on a day and was even looking for churches (I want a small wooden one!) around his area.
We're not officially engaged, though... Everytime we discuss marriage/the wedding™, I tell him that he has to ask me before and he always says he will and that he's going to surprise me.
I definitely want him to propose. I'll not call in an engagement before that.

[bluepotato1236]

Im traditional too..:-P I prefer the guy to propose...Before my SO propose me, we have talk about it..and he also show me some pics of rings and ask me to choose which i like the most...But then when he buy the ring he didnt tell me...I expect it so its not like a total surprise..:-D

[SeattleLove]

I will never be the one proposing because I'm really traditional when it comes to marriage stuff, like proposal, the dress and everything. And I always dreamed of a special and epic proposal. My SO knows that and that's why I think he doesn't even expect me to ever ask HIM. Which I won't do
Usually I'm totally againt those gender roles, but in this case I really like it

[Luisina]

Aw, hopeless romantic.... that's me
I'm not saying that we couldn't discuss the possibility beforehand... on the contrary, we should! marriage is a pretty big deal.
I just really really want the proposal itself to be a down-on-one-knee surprise^^
I'm not traditional in every sense, though.. for example, I'd think it a biiiiiit boring to have the proposal at a restaurant or something like that..

And btw: No ring in ANY type of beverage or dessert, haha.. that trick wouldn't work on me at ALL -.- it's a bit too movie-like.
- plus, with my luck I'm sure I'd accidentally end up swallowing the damn thing jeez..

[SeattleLove]

And btw: No ring in ANY type of beverage or dessert, haha.. that trick wouldn't work on me at ALL -.- it's a bit too movie-like.
- plus, with my luck I'm sure I'd accidentally end up swallowing the damn thing jeez..

HAHAHA I can only agree to that First of, I think that's too clichee and very boring and second of all I would totally eat it and if not, I would probably be confused and ask the waiter why there is something in my desert And totally ruin the moment hahaha

[nicole]

My SO and I have talked about this, I would never ask in a million years, the proposal is on him! We are both very traditional in that sense. He even wants to do the whole asking my father for approval thing, which is completely unnecessary as my dad has made it perfectly clear he is part of our family now, but very sweet at the same time

I have given him strict instructions of what he cannot do though! All his friends at work did all these elaborate proposals- I do not want that! My perfect proposal would be just me and him in the park or somewhere, and he simply asks. No herd of elephants spelling out "Marry me", no putting rings in my wine glass, no expensive dinner etc. just me and him. perfect.

He did ask me how I would do it- I told him I would have proposed in York when he was over here and just ask him at the top of tower there. He was all pissed because it was a genius idea and he didn't have time to get a ring and do that

[folclor]

awww, y'all are all so cute!! >w< though I do agree that rings should not go in any food items! .O.

[lucybelle]

And btw: No ring in ANY type of beverage or dessert

Agreed!!! Plus it'd ruin the wine, and that'd be the greatest tragedy of all

[Riyko]

My ex and I proposed to each other on the same day and at the same time, it wasn't romantic or anything, but it was so us as we always completed each others sentences.

To me it doesn't matter who proposes first, i mean sure if the guy wants to that's fine with me, but if I decide I want to propose to him i'll do it.

Here is how some of the proposals happened in my family

My parents:
My mom asked my dad to marry her after they had been dating for 8 months, she was getting impaitent with my dad because she knew he was the one she wanted to spend the rest of her life with while my dad was scared to ask her. He was afraid of my grandpa because he told my dad if you ever touch my daughter and I find out about it i'll kill you (my mom told my dad her dad just said it to scare away guys who just wanted sex and that if you really love and care about me you'll stay). Anyways, almost 30 years later (this year will be 30) they are still married and in an LDR due to my dad's job.

My brother:
After he found out his wife was pregnant he asked her to marry him and it was a quick marriage as they only knew each other for 4 months. Now almost 5 years later they are still together and have 3 little boys (now they just need to have a girl so i'll have a niece as my brother and I are the only kids and i'm not having any kids).

[archangel]

Really, in the way the world is today... either person could propose. But not everyone wants to be the one asking that vary question, instead they would rather answer. So yeah, you could say traditions have become more open but yet at the same time the old way, of the guy proposing, is still more prominent compared to girls asking their guys to marry them.
Speaking as a guy, I'd think getting down on one knee would require a lot of courage regardless in public or in private.

[heatherotic]

My SO and I have talked about it, and we want to get married, but not in the next month or anything. Lol. I'm pretty sure he knows that if/when he decides to ask [and if he takes too long, I have no problem asking] that of course I'll say yes.

[MadMolly]

IF I ever wanted to get married (so not into that kinda thing though, so it won't happen haha), I'd just be like "we should get married or something" hahaha. I don't know if that counts as a proposal. I'd never make a big fuss over it. Too cheesy!!

[Brandie]

I would never propose to Ben, I guess I'm more traditional when it comes to proposals!! And he would never want me to propose to him, he's a very manly man so to him it's his job to plan something special and propose to me to make me feel like a princess when it's that time. So I'm excited for that day

[Tabitha]

I'm cool with whoever wants to take the initiative doing the proposal. I'd rather the guy propose though. Guess it's one of the few areas that I'm kinda old fashioned in.