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I know where you're coming from with being young. I'm 18 and I've been with my girl since I was 14. And we've been completely and utterly in love the whole way. But we always talk about how we can't wait to get married and to be honest? We would if everyone would be okay with it. But like the reasons people state here, most people aren't okay with it. So we met half way.
We did an unofficial engagement. I told her I was going to ask her to marry me and we both agreed that to us, we would act and feel like we were engaged, but we wouldn't broadcast it to the world. I did the whole getting down on one knee when we were alone one night and we even have rings ($10 rings, but still rings) So it's a way for us to know we really and truly love each other and want to spend our lives together without having people saying you're being crazy. And if something terrible happens and it ends up not working out, there's no need to go through a divorce. This is just my two cents on the subject, but it works for us.
I love that idea! we might take a leaf out of your book haha, I'll be showing this post to my SO
My SO & I talk about it all the time, without the engagement yet. I don't mind, but we're also at that point where we're sure that that's what we want from the future. Make sure you're on the same page. Talking about it never harmed anyone, unless your partner wants nothing to do with the conversation.
To want to be engaged? Not at all.
To actually do it? Yes.
There's no such thing as being too young to know real love or any of that shit, but marriage is a lot more than just love. It's a binding legal insitution. It's a big leap, even more so if you're religious. It's expensive and stressful and serious. It's about knowing exactly what you want - and that someone else can provide that - every day for the rest of your life, and that's a tough call to make. You know yourself better once you stop developing though, which is why waiting is not a bad idea.
I'm still in love with the boy I loved at 17 years old, however, we're both very different people now than we were that many years ago - we're just lucky we grew together rather than apart.
YMMV
THIS.
you can exchange promise rings to vow your love. i'm 18, i talk about a future with my SO, i joke about getting him drunk and marrying him, and i like talking about engagement, so i totally get where you are coming from. i just bought him a lovely simple white gold promise ring just to let him know that i intend to be with him now, tomorrow, and in fifty years, that i want to be his always and that i want our relationship to work and mature.
but don't worry, it's not crazy to day dream
Distance doesn't matter when two hearts are loyal to each other.
Happy to help out (: I just think going through the motions like saying "Will you marry me?" makes it seem more real then just giving a ring and promising it. We've even gotten to the point where if people ask about the ring, we say we're engaged :P
we might take a leaf out of your book haha, I'll be showing this post to my SO 
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