Plans to propose and get married!!

[Zephii]

This thread is freaking hilarious.

I'm all for getting married young. I would have liked to marry younger than I will (I'll be 24) but, at the same time I'm so unbelievably glad I didn't marry the guy I was with at 19!

I am thinking though... 50% of marriages end in divorce and a huge percentage of relationships don't even make it that far. Crazy right? So the odds are against all of us having happy successful marrages. totally wort the risk though My Gods don't really care if I get divorced though, yours has a different opinion.

I'm also thinking it's a fact that your brain chemestry isn't fully developed at 19 and that until you grow into yourself you shouldn't do anything rash.

Another thing I'm thinking is that you shouldn't be proud to be earning under the table money. Be a real man and pay your damn taxes, seriously.

I think that sums it up. Cheers!

[meg]

I don't think anyone here has tried to attack you. You posted your story, and people commented on it because they're concerned. That's fair.
But seriously, I'm 22 now, and I've changed a lot since I was 19. The relationship might change with you two, you might be perfectly fine as you age together, but add in the stress of long distance relationship and you're putting stress on yourself. Even if that LD experience only lasts a little while.
It's hard enough being LDR, but adding in being engaged or wanting to be engaged and it's harder. It's already a lot of stress, and when that honeymoon period wears off it's worse.

[Michael19]

First off, id be totally willing to be on payroll, but its a summer job. ive done it before. and it may go longer than summer. not totally sure yet. if i was on payroll it would mean i have a permanent job. which i do have a permanent job, at kohls. so dont try and tell me to be a man when you didn't even know why its under the table.

and the reason with the whole divorce thing is NOT something im going to get into on the internet since it involves the orthodox religion. and it would take forever to try to explain it to someone who doesn't understand the reasons for it. im not gonna get into a religious debate on the internet. i have better things to do.

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actually, believe it or not, i dont have stress from it being an ldr. shes independent and i can be at times. so it gives us our space, and we'll see each other enough over the next year that its not that bad. sure it has its moments where it sucks. but we both work. i work two jobs. one from 7:30 am-4pm everyday during the week. and the other changes from week to week cause its adset at kohls ( changing the price signs). so im pretty damn busy and it keeps me sane. and she works like i said, and hangs out with her family and her godmother who shes really close to, which all that keeps her sane. and when it does get hard, I pray, and I know as long as I stay faithful to God and her, i'm fine.

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question: when is the "honeymoon period" supposed to end?

[Zephii]

*giggles wickedly*

You don't have to get into it, I've spent a lot of time studying religion and I can hazard a good guess at your feelings on it... I was just sayin'. Having a God centred relationship doesn't mean you can't make mistakes and all.

You're funny when you're angry, you know that right?

[Sora1101]

[/COLOR]question: when is the "honeymoon period" supposed to end?

It's different for every person, I'm still in the honeymoon phase and I've been with my SO for almost 2 years now, and I've been in other relationships where it has only lasted a matter of months so like I said it differs from person to person, or at least that's my opinion.

[Michael19]

Did I ever say I'd never make mistakes? No. I know I will, and i'll deal with them when i get there.

and the reason i dont wanna get into the religion thing, is my religion views things differently than other religions do. the deal with divorce and being a priest is very serious, and hard to explain. and i doubt you ever studied my religion.

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It's different for every person, I'm still in the honeymoon phase and I've been with my SO for almost 2 years now, and I've been in other relationships where it has only lasted a matter of months so like I said it differs from person to person, or at least that's my opinion.

then how do you know when it actually "ends" lol

[Zephii]

Of course no one knows anything about your religion but you, how silly of me

How do you plan to deal with the mistake of marrying the wrong person if that ends up being the case eh?

[Michael19]

have you ever heard of Orthodox?

and if that happens, then i believe everything happens for a reason, and maybe ill end up becoming a bishop (and bishops in the orthodox church can't be married) and thatd be Gods plan for me.

[Zephii]

I've lived with someone who was Orthodox actually. I'm not sure why you think it's so different and special frankly

All I'm saying, underneath the mocking, is to think it through really well. It's great you're doing the counciling thing too - more people should do that. Oh, and work on your arrogance perhaps. You come off as a bit of a dick and God isn't into that.

I'd better go do something more useful, cheerio!

[Michael19]

and how much do you know about it???
and who are you to call me arrogant or a dick? kind of similar to judging, or what have you, in which case, only God can judge me. So I'll leave that to him for when I die and the last judgement comes along.

[Sora1101]

then how do you know when it actually "ends" lol

I know it ends because like I said I've been in previous relationships in which is has ended. Everything ends eventually, it happens, but timing is different for everyone.

[Michael19]

I know it ends because like I said I've been in previous relationships in which is has ended. Everything ends eventually, it happens, but timing is different for everyone.

I said, how do you know WHEN it ends, not, how do you know it ends.

[Sora1101]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tSdELZxEnHY

you should watch that it might be helpful in figuring it out.

[Michael19]

Update: Told my parents, my sister, and my aunt/godmother about my plans to propose and they all approve and are excited for me. They all weren't surprised one bit. I now have to get my grandmas diamond from her ring, (since my aunts decided the only grandson should get her diamond to use). So I have to tell my grandpa I need her diamond (since he has it) We're so excited! Need to go to a jewelers and get prices on settings for the diamond and a band to go with it.

[lucybelle]

Oh, and work on your arrogance perhaps. You come off as a bit of a dick and God isn't into that.

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! Just found this thread!! This is great...

@Michael19 I agree with all the other ladies who have posted on here. And I feel there is nothing more to say. There's certainly no convincing you so to say something is a waste of time. I wish you nothing but the best in your future.