How to make parting bearable?

[angelic_troublemaker]

The last time we parted, we each wrote each other to read after flying away.

What other ideas do people have to make parting bearable?

[snow_girl]

I've done that. I bought him a book I thought he would like to read on the plane also, to keep him busy.

[DaisyWhisper]

I haven't found anything really that makes it any easier. Letters to read is nice but in a way it makes me a little sadder ^^'

[Sierra]

For me there isn't anything that makes it bearable. I have him bring me to the airport a couple minutes early, go cry in the bathroom and then go drink at the bar until my flight.

[MissButterfly]

I haven't really figured anything out yet, but luckily we said our last goodbyes, because next time he'll stay! This time, my mother got him a really cheap phone and a prepaid card, she added the number to our T-Mobile family which meant we could text for free. So we basically just texted until his flight left, which made it a little bit easier. But not really, because we both kept crying anyway...

[Sora1101]

Nothing in the world could make my SO being ripped away from me bearable, I see nothing wrong with having that heart wrenching pain, it's a normal reaction and those of us that go through it shouldn't need to hide it or make it seem like everything's okay. Just let yourself cry it out and in time you'll feel better.

[efish1042]

The only thing that makes it any easier for me is knowing for sure when I'll see him again, but that rarely ever happens and I'm still devastated. Lots of tears on my end... he isn't a crier, but leaving makes him choke up so I know it's really hard on him too. I just have to let myself mope for about a week and stay distracted. Communicating with him, especially via skype or phone call, is pretty therapeutic for me. Just hearing his voice is soothing.

[11MikesGirl21]

I know it's probably not the best thing to do but it seems like we both spend a couple days distancing ourselves a little bit before the separation. We say our mushier goodbyes the night before and I don't think we've ever said "goodbye" at the airport. It's always "see you later". We're both very private with our emotions, unless we're in the same room or if one asks the other to talk about something. We're fairly open with the other though, something we have had to work at, me mostly. So from the outside it probably looks like the most emotionless relationship, which my dad actually mentioned after my SO left after this visit, but it's not at all.

[Dauntedpoet]

The only thing that makes it any easier for me is knowing for sure when I'll see him again

This is the ONLY thing in the 10 years we've been leaving each other that makes parting easier. Having the next visit a certainty.. Not just planning it but having a way to pay for it or having it paid for. The pain and anguish of separation still comes but they seem more manageable.

[Tooki]

It is still pretty crap regardless. I HOPE to have the next visit planned and booked out by the time I leave. I tend to not feel the full-impact until a couple of days after I get home.

[loveknowsnodistance27]

For me, definitely knowing when I'm going to see him again makes it a little bit easier. It's never that easy, but knowing when I'll see him gives me a little bit more peace-of-mind. Right now, we have a day that he's supposed to come home, but he doesn't have the tickets booked yet, so I still have that anxiety in the back of my mind and will not be able to be totally calm until he books it.

[hxcbreakdance]

I wouldn't say it is easier for me but sometimes my SO will leave little surprises around my room like a little note that says I love you and one time he hid a 5 dollar bill for me to find so I could treat myself to a cookie at the mall when I went with my friends, things like that always make my heart melt and it takes some of the sadness away.

[Malaga]

I would agree with those who say it's having the next visit booked. For me the uncertainty is the worst, not knowing whether it's 20 days or a 100 days - I need to have something to count down to in order to feel the time going by.

Recently we got into a habit of booking 2 or 3 visits in advance. I's not easy at all to plan so much ahead because of our work schedules but it really helps a lot knowing you'll see him for sure in X number of days, with a ticket in your pocket so it's a certainty. Come what may, you'll be together again in say 60 days.

[sjaneec5]

I like the idea of already having your next visit planned! We don't do this and it would make things a lot easier that way!

[DaisyWhisper]

This is the ONLY thing in the 10 years we've been leaving each other that makes parting easier. Having the next visit a certainty.. Not just planning it but having a way to pay for it or having it paid for. The pain and anguish of separation still comes but they seem more manageable.

This is so true, and has only ever happened once for us. I am never sure how I am going to afford to go see him again.

---------- Post added at 04:53 PM ---------- Previous post was at 04:51 PM ----------

I wouldn't say it is easier for me but sometimes my SO will leave little surprises around my room like a little note that says I love you and one time he hid a 5 dollar bill for me to find so I could treat myself to a cookie at the mall when I went with my friends, things like that always make my heart melt and it takes some of the sadness away.

I leave notes for him in his lunch that I pack him and in the book that he is reading all the time, I really like suprising him like that when I know he will be sad at the airport on his own.