New to LDR... How to keep it moving forward??

[christyn]

Hi! I met my boyfriend at a concert and it was love at first sight... But it turned out he lives in Florida and I am in Oklahoma. We have made a trip a piece since to each others homes. We have quickly fallen head over heels in love. I don't want to screw this up. I have never had a long distance relationship before and he was in the military and was married once so he kinda knows how this works. But the texting is already getting boring and I am nervous that the spark will start to die and we will grow apart when we are so perfect for each other. Any ideas on how to keep this moving forward? I am almost 30 years old and I want to spend the rest of my life with this man but I don't want it to take forever!! lol.

A side note... he is on contract to work overseas for a year doing security. He will be home every 3-4 months for about a month then gone again. He starts this with in the next few weeks. I am not sure how this will effect us.

Any advice is great!!

[dragonlady]

use email too, in first off course you have a lot to tell each other afther a while that will slow down and that's normal!
we tell each other how our day was and such or write a naughty story sending pics, be creative it will be oke
and try to skype as much as possible or another medium

[8705milesaway]

Hi there!
The most important thing is to keep things new and exciting. It can be really difficult sometimes to come up with things to talk about etc. I'm not exactly sure what kind of things you're both 'into' but be open minded and see where that takes you. After I came back from visiting my SO, it was hard to get back into our normal routine. But trying new things and keeping it interesting helps. Don't get too caught up in planning things/activities to do (like i did) because otherwise you'll loose sight of each other and chatting could almost turn into a chore. This could be different for you though It always surprises me how little I remember about the basics, for example, my SO's favourite colour, food, place etc. So one night, I wrote a list of simple questions I wanted to him to answer It brought us so much closer. Try the 'pair' or 'couples' app. Depending where you live, it could be called either (it's exactly the same)! Get 'snap chat', an app where you can send pics to each other. Write each other love letters, sing songs, plan your next trip together. You'll always have new things to try, check out the idea's/activity list.. that could help also.
Best wishes to you both xx

[Zukafu]

Skyping is always a good way to keep military relationships less stressful.
I agree, send e-mails! You could always just send him long e-mails, with many details, about your day and such. Tell him how much you miss him, things you'd like to do next time you're together. Different things that can help you two stay close.
I wish you both the best!

[lovebunnie1212]

I'd say def skype thats what we do and its somethin that you jsut work at keep talkin get to know each other better laugh and joke together do fun things together even while yall are apart and dont forget communication is everything that and trust in a ldr

[AppleDog22]

I'm all about care packages. For example, if there's something that comes up in conversation, try to tie it in somehow to something to send your SO. My BF jokes about my love of margaritas, and I found a margarita-flavored sucker and sent it to him. It helps turn those little things into something silly and special for both of you. I also saw a cute idea on Pinterest where there were a bunch of individual letters, the envelopes labeled for different occasions ("When you're feeling blue", "When you need a laugh", etc.) that he can keep and open. Maybe some of those can have cute little questionnaires or fill-in-the-blanks that he can send back to you. If texts are getting a little boring, maybe each of you can look forward to getting a surprise in the mail instead to switch things up.