My advice is from a girl, so I think it might help the guys most. However, it would work for anyone else. Could we all add to it?
This came about as I was feeling so sorry for myself this morning. My SO is on a trip and unable to communicate with me for a while, and I was feeling so depressed. I was thinking of ideas of how we all can try to make our loved ones feel better while apart. We can do these things anytime during the distance, but it would especially help during times we are busy and can't text, call, or Skype.
Guys, we girls are made differently than you. We like words. We need words. We live by words. Most of us, anyway. We realize you don't work that way. What takes us a whole page to say, you can say in five words or less. Please try to understand we can't help how we are made. If you want to show your love, reassure us, or make our hearts smile, we need to hear or read it.
Of course, I'm worse on the words deal, because my love language is words of affirmation.
I'm going to start of a list of ideas, but it would be great for all to add to it. Guys, you can add things you've done for your girl that worked well, that she really appreciated. Girls, let's tell the guys what makes us feel good.
1. If you can't be in touch, send an ecard. The ecard sites I use have a way to set the date you want the ecard sent. I'd love to an ecard everyday he's gone.
https://www.egreetings.com/
https://www.123greetings.com/love/
2. Send an envelope of sealed love notes with dates written on them for when to open. They don't have to be long notes. My SO is going to be gone for a week; oh, what I'd give if I had a note from him to open each day he's gone.
3. If you have the money, send flowers during the time you can't be in touch. Just say on the card how much you miss your special someone.
4. Agree that you both will work on something together while apart, say a simple journal. When you can, switch journals. When you send your SO your journal, she will enjoy reading it and knowing you were thinking of her. It would mean a lot that you were willing to take the time to keep it. Each note could be small, but meaningful. "I am thinking of you and missing" is great.
This came about as I was feeling so sorry for myself this morning. My SO is on a trip and unable to communicate with me for a while, and I was feeling so depressed. I was thinking of ideas of how we all can try to make our loved ones feel better while apart. We can do these things anytime during the distance, but it would especially help during times we are busy and can't text, call, or Skype.
Guys, we girls are made differently than you. We like words. We need words. We live by words. Most of us, anyway. We realize you don't work that way. What takes us a whole page to say, you can say in five words or less. Please try to understand we can't help how we are made. If you want to show your love, reassure us, or make our hearts smile, we need to hear or read it.
Of course, I'm worse on the words deal, because my love language is words of affirmation.
I'm going to start of a list of ideas, but it would be great for all to add to it. Guys, you can add things you've done for your girl that worked well, that she really appreciated. Girls, let's tell the guys what makes us feel good.
1. If you can't be in touch, send an ecard. The ecard sites I use have a way to set the date you want the ecard sent. I'd love to an ecard everyday he's gone.
https://www.egreetings.com/
https://www.123greetings.com/love/
2. Send an envelope of sealed love notes with dates written on them for when to open. They don't have to be long notes. My SO is going to be gone for a week; oh, what I'd give if I had a note from him to open each day he's gone.
3. If you have the money, send flowers during the time you can't be in touch. Just say on the card how much you miss your special someone.
4. Agree that you both will work on something together while apart, say a simple journal. When you can, switch journals. When you send your SO your journal, she will enjoy reading it and knowing you were thinking of her. It would mean a lot that you were willing to take the time to keep it. Each note could be small, but meaningful. "I am thinking of you and missing" is great.
(I know it is not anything how to make the other one feel better, but it would be my advice however)
I'm not saying that men should automatically hide their feelings, but in the same line, they shouldn't become emotional messes simply because some people think all women like a man who cries; on a similar train of thought, women shouldn't use being women as an excuse to be moody and emotional (and this comes from an emotional person!). 
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