The aftermath of a visit...

[bevjane501]

How long does this depression stage last for after a visit???

[Ahava]

For me it was 1-2 days...
When you get back into the rhythm of communicating etc (that you did before the visit) and school/work/ hobbies it gets easier.

[Oldblighty]

Usually only a couple of days. I just get back in to my routine & before you know it actually feels like I've never been away....I hate that feeling though Lol....Not saying I don't miss hubby because of course I do but life has to go on. I just make sure we communicate as much as we can and look forward to when we'll be closing the distance...

[bethyylovee]

For me and Stephen it was about a week. It hit me really hard...I was a WRECK...haha. But now things feel much better. We're back to our same routine, doing things together over the computer. It does get better, it just takes some time.

[Kiyama]

Depends. Usually a couple of days, the busier I am, the faster!

[redapple]

Three weeks for me... It was a rough time! I wouldn't say I was really upset for the whole time but I wasn't happy and it took that long til we got back to normal. However long it takes though you'll get there!

[Moon]

For me, it's been different for every visit. Sometimes a day or two, sometimes a couple of weeks, I haven't figured out why it's inconsistent for me, but it is.

[lademoiselle]

3-4 days on average for me. One week max!

[redapple]

hmmm, i wonder if there's a correlation between how long it takes people to get over a visit and how often they visit. I dont get the chance to visit often (every 4months its looking like!) so maybe thats why it took me so long, that or maybe im too emotional for my own good! Its interesting to see how much it varies!

[kattermole]

Probably a day or two, but then we see each other every 12 days or so for two days, so it's not TOO bad. After a longer visit, it takes me a few days more to get back to normal.

[ChibiFelicia]

normally a couple days. sometimes it takes longer.

[Biddlybiddlybombop]

My visits are reasonably long - my SO and I tend to do visits when we can stay with each other for a good couple of months at a time - and my time between visits is reasonably long too - 6 months, it can take me a few weeks to get back into the rhythm of things. After the first month things have usually righted themselves, and enough time has gone since the last visit that I can start looking forward to the next one. I think I definitely depends on the length of your visit and the length of your separation.

[Sora1101]

For me it depends on what's going on in my life, if I'm busy I'll get over it in a few days but if my life is in a crawl then it could take up to a month. :/

[kittyo9]

It took me about a month to get out of the post-visit depression. It was actually not so bad for the first few days and then went straight downhill for the next few weeks. This was after I visited my SO for the first time (for about 3 1/2 weeks) around 7 months ago.

It likely depends on several factors-- how often you see one another, whether or not you have a definite date set for the next visit, how long your visits are, how you deal with separation... lots of things.

[Jazi]

hmmm, i wonder if there's a correlation between how long it takes people to get over a visit and how often they visit. I dont get the chance to visit often (every 4months its looking like!) so maybe thats why it took me so long, that or maybe im too emotional for my own good! Its interesting to see how much it varies!

I'd say there is a correlation for me, when I leave him/go through that sad stage after a visit I'm not just sad to say goodbye but KNOWING it will be months before I get to see/touch him again adds so much more weight to the sadness.

We once had a trip where it was a month between when I left him and when he visited me (we had family holiday plans together), it was awesome and definitely one of the easiest goodbyes/sadness after a trip I've had.

ETP - forgot to quote redapple there! lol