So I guess I'll tell the whole story. Me and this guy, we'll just call him Bob, have been talking for about two months. We started talking on a dating website and then we started texting each other a lot. We decided we should plan a trip to Cedar Point, so we did and yesterday was our first time meeting. This is how it went:
So I had a few things to do that morning but they all ended up back firing. So since i couldn't do anything I planed I ended up at our meeting place an 30 minutes earlier than expected. So I waited until 11:30 rolled around (the time we were supposed to meet) and nothing. (I had broke my phone 2 days earlier so I couldn't text or call him) 10 minutes went by. Nothing. 20 minutes. Nothing. I almost left but I told myself I would at least wait an hour. About 25 minutes later he shows up. I wasn't too upset about it, he said he woke up late which means it took him longer to get stuff done at his job than he thought. All was forgiven.
We start driving to CP and the first thing i notice about him is that he's super quiet. I was the only one keeping the conversation going. Which was annoying. When we arrived it got a little better. We would get into long conversations that felt natural and flowed well but when the conversation died, it was dead and gone. I'd try to start a new one but he'd just be very short with his responses and seemed uninterested. He would even sometimes say nothing at all like I would point out some things and he would just sit there quietly. I hated that, is it really that hard to find something to say or respond with. I mean, when you're getting to know someone, you try right? I felt like he wasn't trying that much. He did end up Googleing a bunch of questions to ask me which was fun. We ended up doing that for the rest of the time. But he also was very inconsiderate. He wouldn't ride some of the rides that I really wanted to ride, no matter what I said. I know most people would do it anyway but he was adamant about it. He was even kind of jerkish about it. He seemed very distant and guarded too.
apart from all the bad things, most things were great. He was funny and fun to talk to (when he would actually talk) But unfortunately there were too many signs that pointed to him being uninterested in me. I'm not stupid, so I can tell when someone is interested and when they're not. He just went along with it because he had already paid for the ticket so why not enjoy it while you're there, right? I get that he wanted to be nice without sending the wrong message so he kept his distance. He would literally stand across from me. And when I was in line to get some ice cream, he just wondered off. He didn't stand by me or anything. If that doesn't scream "I want to be nice to you but I don't want you to think I like you" then I don't know what does, It just sucks that I spent 2 months really falling for this guy, only to have it backfire.
I guess I just needed to vent. I hope I'm not reading too much into things. Like, what if he was just shy or something. Or what if he's genuinely just a quiet person? I don't know. Maybe, but I don't think I'm willing to put my heart on the line to find out. I've been hurt way too many time.
So I had a few things to do that morning but they all ended up back firing. So since i couldn't do anything I planed I ended up at our meeting place an 30 minutes earlier than expected. So I waited until 11:30 rolled around (the time we were supposed to meet) and nothing. (I had broke my phone 2 days earlier so I couldn't text or call him) 10 minutes went by. Nothing. 20 minutes. Nothing. I almost left but I told myself I would at least wait an hour. About 25 minutes later he shows up. I wasn't too upset about it, he said he woke up late which means it took him longer to get stuff done at his job than he thought. All was forgiven.
We start driving to CP and the first thing i notice about him is that he's super quiet. I was the only one keeping the conversation going. Which was annoying. When we arrived it got a little better. We would get into long conversations that felt natural and flowed well but when the conversation died, it was dead and gone. I'd try to start a new one but he'd just be very short with his responses and seemed uninterested. He would even sometimes say nothing at all like I would point out some things and he would just sit there quietly. I hated that, is it really that hard to find something to say or respond with. I mean, when you're getting to know someone, you try right? I felt like he wasn't trying that much. He did end up Googleing a bunch of questions to ask me which was fun. We ended up doing that for the rest of the time. But he also was very inconsiderate. He wouldn't ride some of the rides that I really wanted to ride, no matter what I said. I know most people would do it anyway but he was adamant about it. He was even kind of jerkish about it. He seemed very distant and guarded too.
apart from all the bad things, most things were great. He was funny and fun to talk to (when he would actually talk) But unfortunately there were too many signs that pointed to him being uninterested in me. I'm not stupid, so I can tell when someone is interested and when they're not. He just went along with it because he had already paid for the ticket so why not enjoy it while you're there, right? I get that he wanted to be nice without sending the wrong message so he kept his distance. He would literally stand across from me. And when I was in line to get some ice cream, he just wondered off. He didn't stand by me or anything. If that doesn't scream "I want to be nice to you but I don't want you to think I like you" then I don't know what does, It just sucks that I spent 2 months really falling for this guy, only to have it backfire.
I guess I just needed to vent. I hope I'm not reading too much into things. Like, what if he was just shy or something. Or what if he's genuinely just a quiet person? I don't know. Maybe, but I don't think I'm willing to put my heart on the line to find out. I've been hurt way too many time.
Then he opened it himself. If it were me on the outside instead of him, I could easily read that as him not being interested. There's a chance he really is a jerk, but if you saw something in him before, maybe he just needs more time.
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