Hi everyone,
I'm looking for some advice on how to proceed with my very new long distance relationship. I've been combing forums and articles for similar situations as mine but keep coming up empty handed, so maybe you guys can help me!
My SO and I actually first met about 3 years ago, and got to know each other pretty well as we worked together in a local restaurant for about a year. We were friends, but I was in a relationship with somebody else at the time and he had just gotten out of a long term relationship, so neither of us were looking for anything. We flirted a bit, that was it, and then he moved away to start a job somewhere else and we were out of touch for about 2 years.
During that time, my last relationship disintegrated, and I have recently gotten back into the the dating scene. My SO contacted me via social media totally coincidentally around the same time - about a month ago - and we've been chatting every evening since. It started just as friends catching up, but things quickly evolved into more than that (but not too quickly!). We've expressed serious interest in each other, and in a relationship together, and he's taking 4 days off work to come visit this week. He's about 500 miles away, so our visit will really only be 3 days after this travel time is factored in (7 hr drive).
Soo, I guess I'm just not really sure how to proceed when he gets here because we already know each other. It's not like I'm meeting a stranger for the first time ever! We were friends before. I'm very confident that we'll click and get along, I'm just not sure what to do about the little things... like: Do I tell him to meet me at my place when he gets into town, or at a restaurant? He'll be staying with me. Should we try and put off physical intimacy until after he's been here for a day or so? I'm just not really sure at all how to handle that first little bit of time together!! So some advice would be greatly appreciated!!
I'm looking for some advice on how to proceed with my very new long distance relationship. I've been combing forums and articles for similar situations as mine but keep coming up empty handed, so maybe you guys can help me!
My SO and I actually first met about 3 years ago, and got to know each other pretty well as we worked together in a local restaurant for about a year. We were friends, but I was in a relationship with somebody else at the time and he had just gotten out of a long term relationship, so neither of us were looking for anything. We flirted a bit, that was it, and then he moved away to start a job somewhere else and we were out of touch for about 2 years.
During that time, my last relationship disintegrated, and I have recently gotten back into the the dating scene. My SO contacted me via social media totally coincidentally around the same time - about a month ago - and we've been chatting every evening since. It started just as friends catching up, but things quickly evolved into more than that (but not too quickly!). We've expressed serious interest in each other, and in a relationship together, and he's taking 4 days off work to come visit this week. He's about 500 miles away, so our visit will really only be 3 days after this travel time is factored in (7 hr drive).
Soo, I guess I'm just not really sure how to proceed when he gets here because we already know each other. It's not like I'm meeting a stranger for the first time ever! We were friends before. I'm very confident that we'll click and get along, I'm just not sure what to do about the little things... like: Do I tell him to meet me at my place when he gets into town, or at a restaurant? He'll be staying with me. Should we try and put off physical intimacy until after he's been here for a day or so? I'm just not really sure at all how to handle that first little bit of time together!! So some advice would be greatly appreciated!!
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