Just as the title states I have no clue what I'm doing. This long distance relationship just kind of fell in my lap recently. So I don't really know if I should be in one. But, I do know he's such a sweetie and respectful! I can't not be with him because we live in different states. Too much of what I want in a life partner. These are things I've been looking for for a while dating and seems to be hard to find.
So we're planning our first meet/weekend. We've got almost 700 miles between us. I decided to go to him since I have children in my house and will not be introducing him to them yet. So no sleeping at my house even though he said he'd stay at a hotel. I opted for me to come there, I need to break anyways.
Again, with me coming there he offers to stay with him or he'd buy a room for me and we'd just stay there all weekend. I am strongly leaning toward just staying with him. I mean, yes we've never met but, I just hate the fact of him spending money for a hotel room when he lives there. It just seems so wasteful especially since my birthday is in a month and wants us to plan a small vacation. Also, though I'm a bit nervous about where exactly he lives. How can I get comfortable with staying at his place? He keeps saying, "I just want you to be comfortable." And I WANT to stay with him, but because sometimes I'm a bit shy when meeting people in person for the first time. There's no meet at this place and let me check you out, I'm traveling 700 miles to be with him... lol We've Skyped, but that's different.
Primarily my nervousness is coming from previous bad experiences going to other people's houses. I'm desperately trying to shake those bad experiences and be comfortable being at his place since he's opening it up. How did you any of you plan your first weekend together? Did you stay at a hotel? How did you get comfortable with the idea of spending the weekend with them?
So we're planning our first meet/weekend. We've got almost 700 miles between us. I decided to go to him since I have children in my house and will not be introducing him to them yet. So no sleeping at my house even though he said he'd stay at a hotel. I opted for me to come there, I need to break anyways.
Again, with me coming there he offers to stay with him or he'd buy a room for me and we'd just stay there all weekend. I am strongly leaning toward just staying with him. I mean, yes we've never met but, I just hate the fact of him spending money for a hotel room when he lives there. It just seems so wasteful especially since my birthday is in a month and wants us to plan a small vacation. Also, though I'm a bit nervous about where exactly he lives. How can I get comfortable with staying at his place? He keeps saying, "I just want you to be comfortable." And I WANT to stay with him, but because sometimes I'm a bit shy when meeting people in person for the first time. There's no meet at this place and let me check you out, I'm traveling 700 miles to be with him... lol We've Skyped, but that's different.
Primarily my nervousness is coming from previous bad experiences going to other people's houses. I'm desperately trying to shake those bad experiences and be comfortable being at his place since he's opening it up. How did you any of you plan your first weekend together? Did you stay at a hotel? How did you get comfortable with the idea of spending the weekend with them?
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