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    general anxiety & also first time flying alone?

    Alright so I should be visiting my partner for the first time in November for about a week and I'm kinda terrified of a lot of things.
    I'm 19 and she's 21. We've been together for almost a year. It'll be a year in November actually, so thats neat. but I'm extremely self conscious about my looks, my body type, etc. so my anxiety has been running me into the ground lately. I've brought it up with her and she has told me time and time again that she loves me for me, no matter what kind of body type I have and that she will always love me but I'm still really scared I'll disappoint her. I love her with all of my being and I really don't think she's the type to be like that but the fear is still there. Especially since I've never had a relationship in person before. I don't know how to act with a partner irl. I don't know what to do or how to cope with any of this.
    I'm also extremely scared of flying alone. I've flown before multiple times, just never alone and the last time wasn't within the past 8 years. I have social anxiety and a fear of being alone, especially in public situations. Does anyone have any advice? I've come up with having a map of both airports I'll be in and drawing my route out on them. I'm also going to be bringing the scarf my partner gave to me that smells like her, just for comfort. I just need some kind of reassurance or help with maybe some kind of way to manage myself while doing all of this. Its all very brand new to me.

    Any help is appreciated.
    Thanks
    Tags: anxiety, first time meeting, flying alone, scared, self esteem
    #2
    Anxiety can be tough to deal with but it's not impossible. Have you thought about trying to build up to it. Maybe go to the airport before November and just get used to being there on your own, or if it's too far away go to other places that are busy alone and get used to dealing with the initial panic. You often find it's the thought of these things that are the worse and in reality they don't turn out as bad as you imagined.

    Other things - download music or a podcast/audio book to distract yourself with while flying and being at the airport.

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      #3
      Originally posted by 80anthea View Post
      Anxiety can be tough to deal with but it's not impossible. Have you thought about trying to build up to it. Maybe go to the airport before November and just get used to being there on your own, or if it's too far away go to other places that are busy alone and get used to dealing with the initial panic. You often find it's the thought of these things that are the worse and in reality they don't turn out as bad as you imagined.

      Other things - download music or a podcast/audio book to distract yourself with while flying and being at the airport.
      THIS!
      Try and go walk the airport with a friend first, then by yourself a couple times. I so agree with that! Go check out where you will be checking in.

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        #4
        Remember that the air hostesses are used to people who are afraid to fly. You can tell them right away when you come and they can be extra attentive to you. A lot of people are slightly afraid to fly, I have been too, at times.

        Also, the music thing is a good idea. And if you like to read, you can bring a book or a magazine, or watch a movie if that will be possible on the plane. Also, remember to drink more than you would on the ground - the airplane air is rather dry.

        I had my first lover at 19 too. It does not matter how old you are. You can enter things slowly but moving forward, like you would enter a pool you have not swam in before.

        I know you think everyone has done everything, but people are different and the numbers are just statistics. You do whatever you want to do when the time is right.
        I made love to him only twice, she thought and looked at the man laying asleep beside her. And yet still it is as if we have been together forever, as if he has always known my life, my soul, my body, my light, my pain
        - Paulo Coelho, "Eleven minutes"



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          #5
          I would also give yourself plenty of time at the airport so that you don't end up needing to rush. Will help with the anxiety.


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            #6
            I am feeling the same and have decided to do a trial run to my airport, find where am leaving from and such things.

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              #7
              Hi

              I had the same fear as you when my I met my boyfriend back this past July for the first time after talking together for nine months. He came here to meet at a restaurant with his folks, they were all going on a horseback ride so they passed through. I am significantly overweight and so I feared he would take one look at me and run! It was awkward to be honest being next to somebody so skinny although he seemed to overlook it and we found chemistry and a spark and even had our first kiss a couple times. The second time I met up with him on his way back, it felt more natural being around him. I think it will go just fine and that the more time you hang around her you will start to see how it goes. Also if she doesn't like you for your body type then she isn't the right girl for you.

              Lisa

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