Some background information, I am a 17 year old British student and she is a 17 year old French girl, also a student. We met in April 2015 on a language exchange site, and knew that there was something special about each-other. We both held pretty conservative views, i.e. how can a relationship be real if one has never met? however, things change, and now we have decided that we need to meet. So, I am going to France in July. However, a female friend invited me to go to Paris this year for three weeks as a holiday. My SO said she wouldn't be with me going to Paris with another girl, fair enough.
However, I just want to be absolutely sure that I am doing the right thing in declining this invitation to go and see her, as her mother has said some things that made me a little uneasy, which my SO showed me on screenshot. Her mother said she is happy for me to come and stay, but that "we will see the results of my SO's baccalaureate. Her mother also refuses to speak directly to me on the phone, so I only see development via screenshot. However, she (my SO) never stops talking about what we'll do together when we meet, and how much she can't wait. I am just unsettled by what her mother says. If we waited that long for confirmation, transport would be a lot more expensive for me, and I am going to university in September so money is a little tight. I would also miss out on seeing my friend (who is Spanish and whom I don't see often). Although I understand her mother perfectly, I also need to know if I will in fact be able to come so that I don't decline my friend's invite for nothing (if I can actually meet my SO its not a problem but I wouldn't like to decline an amazing experience in vain), rather than being in limbo for months waiting for my SO's results. Is there any way we could come to a compromise to allow me a little more clarity that we will actually meet? (I may be over-thinking this but I really don't want to feel like a fool). Please tell me what you would do . Can you think of a reason why her mother wouldn't want to talk on the phone to me ?
However, I just want to be absolutely sure that I am doing the right thing in declining this invitation to go and see her, as her mother has said some things that made me a little uneasy, which my SO showed me on screenshot. Her mother said she is happy for me to come and stay, but that "we will see the results of my SO's baccalaureate. Her mother also refuses to speak directly to me on the phone, so I only see development via screenshot. However, she (my SO) never stops talking about what we'll do together when we meet, and how much she can't wait. I am just unsettled by what her mother says. If we waited that long for confirmation, transport would be a lot more expensive for me, and I am going to university in September so money is a little tight. I would also miss out on seeing my friend (who is Spanish and whom I don't see often). Although I understand her mother perfectly, I also need to know if I will in fact be able to come so that I don't decline my friend's invite for nothing (if I can actually meet my SO its not a problem but I wouldn't like to decline an amazing experience in vain), rather than being in limbo for months waiting for my SO's results. Is there any way we could come to a compromise to allow me a little more clarity that we will actually meet? (I may be over-thinking this but I really don't want to feel like a fool). Please tell me what you would do . Can you think of a reason why her mother wouldn't want to talk on the phone to me ?
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