Should I tell parents about our next visit??
Hey guys..
I am 23 years old and live 3 hr drive away from my parents. I'm in a very new LDR (met online 4 months ago, met for the first time irl 2 months ago), and since I'm on holidays this month I went to see him for a week earlier this month. My mom was fully aware that I was going and I had told her that I was visiting a "friend" (she now knows we're more than just friends). She was worried about me; London is a big and scary place, especially when you're used to a small Scandinavian town.
Now my SO has invited me to come see him again over the weekend and my flight is tomorrow night, it's a 2-hour flight; no biggie.
But I haven't told my mom.... (yet?)...
I decided that I would be doing her a favour by sparing her the worries, and I am not ready for her to ask me questions about my new relationship. She has previously stated that LDRs are bullshit, which does not sound very supportive. Also, I don't feel like my relationship has reached the point where I'm comfortable with having my mom asking me loads of questions or worrying that I spend too much money on going to see my SO. I just want to take it slow and focus on getting to know my SO even better, and I fear that having my mom too involved can be exhausting since I don't feel ready for that yet.
But all of a sudden I feel extremely guilty. She deserves to know that I'm leaving the country, and although my friends know that I'm gone, I cannot imagine how devastated she would be if something happens to me and she then will find out that I'm in London. Just knowing that I will have to lie to her for the next days when she calls me and asks me where I am and what I'm doing... it just upsets me a lot knowing that I will be lying to her. Also if I decide to tell her she will then find out that I skip the first lecture this semester.
I don't fear that she will be unsupportive, I just don't want her to be under the impression that I'm giving up everything because of this guy, and I just want the relationship to bloom more before I'm comfortable with parents knowing more.
Do you guys always tell your parents when you leave the country? Do you think I am going to regret not telling her that I'm leaving the country?
I am 23 years old and live 3 hr drive away from my parents. I'm in a very new LDR (met online 4 months ago, met for the first time irl 2 months ago), and since I'm on holidays this month I went to see him for a week earlier this month. My mom was fully aware that I was going and I had told her that I was visiting a "friend" (she now knows we're more than just friends). She was worried about me; London is a big and scary place, especially when you're used to a small Scandinavian town.
Now my SO has invited me to come see him again over the weekend and my flight is tomorrow night, it's a 2-hour flight; no biggie.
But I haven't told my mom.... (yet?)...
I decided that I would be doing her a favour by sparing her the worries, and I am not ready for her to ask me questions about my new relationship. She has previously stated that LDRs are bullshit, which does not sound very supportive. Also, I don't feel like my relationship has reached the point where I'm comfortable with having my mom asking me loads of questions or worrying that I spend too much money on going to see my SO. I just want to take it slow and focus on getting to know my SO even better, and I fear that having my mom too involved can be exhausting since I don't feel ready for that yet.
But all of a sudden I feel extremely guilty. She deserves to know that I'm leaving the country, and although my friends know that I'm gone, I cannot imagine how devastated she would be if something happens to me and she then will find out that I'm in London. Just knowing that I will have to lie to her for the next days when she calls me and asks me where I am and what I'm doing... it just upsets me a lot knowing that I will be lying to her. Also if I decide to tell her she will then find out that I skip the first lecture this semester.
I don't fear that she will be unsupportive, I just don't want her to be under the impression that I'm giving up everything because of this guy, and I just want the relationship to bloom more before I'm comfortable with parents knowing more.
Do you guys always tell your parents when you leave the country? Do you think I am going to regret not telling her that I'm leaving the country?
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