I noticed that with all of the guys I date they go through this Cloud 9 phase, like... hardcore Cloud 9 phase. I know all couples go through a Honeymoon phase where everything is new and fresh and it's a constantly adventure as you get to know each other more and discover things about each other. But there's also this initial phase that lasts a few weeks up to a month where a guy goes in hardcore. This can even be before the relationship starts.

They're super romantic, super affectionate, saying everything you want to hear, promising things and painting such a romantic life such as the desire to travel with you, days being lazy in bed together, wow much passion, very love! But then they crash. And I don't know about other women but I am not like that. I'm not on this weird high for a month. My affection is genuine from day one, if not, I become more affectionate with time because I've grown more comfortable with my partner.

I guess this really threw me off because as I previously mentioned, my boyfriend is kind of a quiet guy, short on words. But when we started dating he was very verbally affectionate. That's the only way we can be affectionate to be honest. It was nice. But he's since crashed and now he isn't very receptive of it.

For example, before:

Me: Holy crap it's really cold in my bed. Could definitely use a certain someone in my bed to help keep me warm.
Him: I'd already have you in my arms <3

Now:

Me: Holy crap it's really cold in my bed. Could definitely use a certain someone in my bed to help keep me warm.
Him: Me too.
or
Him: <3

That's literally all he says to my verbal affection, either "me too" or "<3" And I don't really get any from him voluntarily. At best he'll say "Good morning, beautiful <3" My best guess is that since he is a quiet guy, verbal affection really isn't his thing, but I was tricked by that initial high guys seem to experience at first and began to think maybe since things were out and in the open he was more open and verbal. I'm trying to remind myself this. During my last relationship I had the same issue. He was so affectionate and romantic in the beginning, but then he crashed and I began to worry that maybe his feelings for me had changed.

I feel a desire for verbal affection since that's the only way one can give affection from a distance. And if there is no verbal affection there is no affection at all. There's only little gestures. We do Skype calls every night and play games together, he tells me good morning as soon as he gets up, texts me during his break at work, and we tell each other good night just as one of us is going to bed. He's going to be going on a group trip to Disney with my best friend, her boyfriend, and I in June. He's also expressed interest in me moving up there to go to college since he lives in a college town and I've been looking for a college to go to that's away from home, but in the same town as someone I know because I'm too old to do the dorm life thing. I told him I'd only do that if he really really wanted me there and if he was genuinely serious about making it work with me. Our relationship is still young so I wouldn't want to plan for such a thing only for him to quickly change his mind. But neither of us do casual dating. When I enter a relationship with someone I go in with the idea that this person is potentially the person I spend the rest of my life with. He told me he wouldn't offer unless he was serious and genuine about it. So I'm going to trust his word.

Sometimes it's hard to tell how he feels and the complete lack of verbal affection really throws me off at times. But at the end of the day I am with him because I care about him and I like him as a person. I don't mind that he's quiet as long as he promises to be verbal if an issue comes up, which he's assured me he will do. It'll only become an issue if he isn't even physically affectionate when we're together in person.

Does anyone here have a partner who isn't really verbally affectionate?