I can put up with people being messy and not being spotless and neat. However, it drives me nuts how sloppy my boyfriend is at times. For instance... my boyfriend is subscribed to Loot Crate, this neat subscription box that sends you exclusive nerdy things every month. He unboxes the stuff, puts the stuff on his desk, does nothing with it, it ends up getting dirty because he eats at his desk, or it gets knocked onto the floor thanks to the millions of other crap he keeps on his desk, and some of the stuff has even ended up getting broken because he knocked it onto the floor. At the very least he could keep them stored in their loot crate boxes so that they're safely stored away! I swear, when we move I am getting us a book case and every Loot Crate item he gets better end up on that book case and NOT on his desk.
I just don't understand how people can do that... my best friend does it too. Buys a bunch of stuff that she has no room for and so it all just sits around everywhere, some in literal piles, and gets dirty, broken, or lost. Why do people buy such things if they don't have the room and won't take care of it??? My boyfriend has a literal pile of stuff at the side of his desk and he has candy, snack, and food wrappers starting to accumulate under the desk. It's getting to be too much. I am not even the cleanest person myself but I always make time every week to clean up and I make sure I take good care of my stuff and maintain some level of organization (even if it's organized chaos).
The other day he couldn't find any of his 4 coats/hoodies because he just drops them onto the floor and they end up getting kicked under the bed, or jammed in the bed frame, or blending into a pile of the rest of his clothing that he just drops onto the floor. He often cannot find his wallet, phone, work hat, etc. because what he'll do is put them on my desk because it's the first surface he walks past when he walks through the door. He then drops his backpack in the middle of the floor and then gets changed into his pajamas in the middle of the floor and leaves his clothing there where he drops them. Once I couldn't find my tweezers and I nearly flipped out on him because he went through my makeup bag, where I keep them, used them, and didn't put them back and I couldn't find them when I needed them. He just let them join the collection of crap on his desk.
It's inconsiderate!
It's chaotic and stressful!
It's insanitary at times!
The fact that adults are like this baffles me. 9 year old me was tidier than 28 year old him.
My main concern is that eventually we will be equally sharing a space and eventually we will be buying things that are both ours and I don't want him treating anything that I have any claim on in such a way. The TV stand with my game consoles are right next to his desk, and he piles so much stuff on his desk to the point garbage and stuff start to fall off and it's condensed into this pile between the TV stand and his desk and amongst those things are my Wii U and PS4 controllers...
Since I wrote the blog entry I actually looked up how to resolve conflict with a messy partner and one lady said that she'd always been messy until one day she had taken up the entire dining table with her art supplies and just left it there. Her husband eventually took all of her art supplies and threw them in a pile on the floor because he needed to use the space and she just left her stuff there even when she was done with it. She said it made her feel really guilty and inconsiderate.
I know exactly why though and my dad knows too
It's cause mom is actually WORSE THAN ME and never got berated for it, so when I get yelled at I just go "Well I don't get yogurt on YOUR things when I borrow them"