I Didn't Think I was the Jealous Type

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June 18, 2014, 10:37 AM
I Didn't Think I was the Jealous Type

I'm not a jealous person. Then why can't I stop thinking about Newt hanging out with these two girls from work? Probably because they've made it clear that they like him. One has blatantly stated that she likes him, said "it'd be okay if you broke up" and "there are other fish in the sea". The other one isn't quite so bad, but he showed me a text message where she wrote something along the lines of "if I were single I'd totally date you". Her and her bf have since broken up and the other girl has been single the whole time...

I trust him with all my heart- he's never given me a reason not to. Even in his text messages to these girls he's saying that he loves me and he's not giving up on a good thing. The thing that's bothering me though is he's hanging out with the two of them on Thursday (I think they're going to dinner), and he made a comment about me being there. Well I asked him last night if I was really invited and his reply was "kinda halfheartedly by me". At the time it didn't bother me, but ever since I woke up this morning I can't stop thinking about it. And as the day goes on the doubt is creeping in.

I hate being the jealous girlfriend, and I refuse to tell him who he's allowed to be friends with. I just wish I was getting clearer signs from him right now.

What do you think, should I be concerned? I'm going to talk to him this afternoon about all of this, I just wanted to know if I was making a mountain out of a mole hill.
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  whatruckus commented
  
  June 20, 2014, 01:41 AM
  
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  Uh, you definitely have a slight reason to be unnerved, not so much jealous. Not in the sense that your SO will do anything, but that these girls will try to do something. It already seems like they're trying to weasel their way in. That's what I'm always afraid of with my SO because he's always so nice, plus sometimes he's oblivious .
  
  At the same time, like a few people have said, it's a hard situation since they work with him. If he turns one of them down, they could really try to mess up his job by claiming sexual harassment, or say he's lazy or something like that. That being said, you both need to tread lightly on how to handle them. You should definitely talk to him about this. Tell him how it makes you feel to know that these girls are trying to "steal" him, so to speak. Also, that they completely disrespect you and your relationship with him. He needs to make it extremely clear to these girls that his interest is only in you and that maybe he shouldn't hang out with these girls outside of work because it may lead them to think that he does like them, as more than friends. It's completely inappropriate for these girls to talk to him that way, knowing full well that he is in a relationship with you.
  
  What has his response been to these girls when they've made those comments??
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  Zapookie commented
  
  June 20, 2014, 04:13 AM
  
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  If it were my SO I would tell him that I was feeling uncomfortable with the situation, and would rather he not go out to dinner with two girls who have the hots for him. Seriously.
  Ok, fine go out for a group outing where theres a bunch of other people, but IDK, that's just weird to me. I don't think I would ever go out to dinner with people who have made comments like that to me, knowing they liked me and knowing I was in a relationship. It just looks bad.
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  kattermole commented
  
  June 20, 2014, 07:35 PM
  
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  I agree, I actually think it's quite disrespectful.
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