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loveknowsnodistance27 started a blog post Close Distance, but in an LD State of MindClose Distance, but in an LD State of Mind
I think I am still in a Long Distance state-of-mind. I texted my boyfriend asking him if he wanted to watch a DVD of our favorite show tonight, just because I wanted to see him and was too tired from work to go out somewhere. Plus, I just like spending time with him at one of our houses, cuddling and relaxing as well as going places with him. He told me he couldn't tonight, and we could try for tomorrow or Monday. I told him that was fine...my mind began racing and I wondered what could be more important than spending time with me. I didn't tell him any of this. I just felt a little sad about it. But, he later texted me saying he was spending time with his next door neighbor, who he thinks of as a younger brother. How could I be upset about THAT? The kid is 13 and looks up to my boyfriend so much...it's so freaking adorable, that I stopped feeling bummed and sorry for myself. I asked my boyfriend to say hi for me to his neighbor because we know each other too and he thinks I'm awesome too. I felt like a selfish bitch and an asshole for feeling the way I did prior to knowing he was hanging with his neighbor. I am afraid of coming across to my boyfriend as needy and clingy now that we're CD. I mean, we spent a ton of time with each other last night, hanging out with friends of ours and we had an awesome time! I think the reason I feel this need to see him all the time is because I am still thinking we are long distance, and that he's just visiting. It's almost as if I feel like I have to see him a ton because he'll only be here for a week or so and then have to go back up to Rochester. But, he's not going anywhere anytime soon....he'll be here until late August/early September. I don't know how I can stop feeling like this, because I want us to enjoy this summer together (because he won't be coming home for the next 2 summers most likely) and I don't want to overload him either. It's hard to explain. I hope you guys understand what I'm saying. I guess it still hasn't set in that we're close distance! Has anyone else experienced this?-
#1Mara commentedEditing a commentWe temporarily closed the distance for a year before and when we first closed the distance I wanted to spend ALL of my time with him..maybe it was something to do with missing him all of that time? I'm not totally sure, but I know it did wear off and I became more relaxed after the first few weeks. He hasn't been home long yet. Give yourself some time to adjust. *hugs*
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#2loveknowsnodistance27 commentedEditing a commentThanks for sharing your experience. I hope it gets better soon. I may talk to him about it and just let him know...we've been CD for less than 2 weeks. Glad to know this is normal lol.
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