My SO is so close to moving in and I can't believe how lucky I am! The problem is he's starting to feel the reality of it all and is feeling stressed. Today is his last day at a job he's worked at for 10 years. Monday morning he will leave his family for the first time ever. And to make it worse, his family got into a huge argument yesterday that lead to his mom going to the police and getting a restraining order on some crazy uncle who has threatened to hurt his family. UGGHHH.
All these things piled up on him. This is supposed to be a happy time, but instead he's worried about his family, sad about leaving his job, and stressed out over getting everything done in time. I'm so bad in emotional situations and I just don't know how to comfort him. I just sent him a long email this morning saying how happy I am that he's moving in and how I think it's going to be a great experience for him.
Any other ideas? Even on what to say? All I could say last night was "I'm sorry" and "You've done everything you could." until the subject got changed... So bad at this!
Everyone handles these situations differently, so your not doing a bad job.
My SO is leaving his family in 19 days and I am used to how he reacts after 5 years together. I find the more I speak to him about him coming back when it gets so close, the more distant he becomes. Its like although he is excited to see me and come back, the reality of the situation is overbearing. He feels guilty if he tells me he is excited to see me, because he feels that if he does he is excited to leave his family. So I find the best thing is to try not to talk about it, and let him talk to me about it. Everyone handles things differently, you just need to listen to him :-)