Quit cramping my style!

lucybelle started a blog post Quit cramping my style!
February 19, 2011, 04:03 PM
Quit cramping my style!

I love my SO. I truly do. And I shouldn't be complaining about this when I know how much it sucks to be apart. But he has got to give me some space. He's only been living with me for a week and he is constantly all over me. I understand the necessity for a high quantity of sex during a visit, but we LIVE together now. He's not leaving in a day. We have sex 3 times a day at least. And still whenever we drive places he's feeling me up, or kissing me... leave me alone! When I come home from work all he wants to do is kiss me which he wants to lead to other things. When I go to take a nap, it is never actually a nap. I want to sleep. I want to sit down and visit my LFAD family and mess around on facebook. I want some moments when I'm not putting out. I'm exhausted. I'm sore. and I'm tired of it.

*sigh* I'm hoping that this will start to die off in the next couple days. I mean it's not like I'm holding out on the guy. But really. Let me read a book. Let me watch the Daily Show. We haven't had a straight conversation since he's gotten here. I feel like all he wants is to screw me. I'm on the couch and he comes over to kiss me. But a peck won't do. Not even a kiss. He wants me to make out and if I stop he'll start kissing me neck.

leave. me. alone.!!!!!
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  Dziubka commented
  
  February 19, 2011, 05:59 PM
  
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  You have to take into consideration that he's not working and, apart from maybe being in a new environment with a new language and without his family and friends, doesn't have any stress. You in contrast have work full time.
  Stress is affecting the sex drive big time. Even if you're happy with your job and it's not stressing you out as that, it's still something you have to do and put effort into.
  My SO and I sort of had the same 'problem' when I was staying at his place during my holidays.
  Maybe if he finds some other activities (volunteering? sport? take some classes?) it might help.
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  lucybelle commented
  
  February 19, 2011, 06:16 PM
  
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  Thanks for the perspectives! I am trying to get him involved in other activities. I think he can get a pretty consistent volunteer job at a museum close by. I've also looked into classes for him. I don't expect him to get into anything this very first week, but I also can't continue to look for him. I've told him about what I've found, put him in contact with the people, now it's his job to go and start. I've also put him in contact with one of my friends and they have hung out twice this week while I was at work.
  
  I know he's just settling in, which is why I haven't said anything yet and have been trying my best to keep up with his needs. But I just can't keep this up forever.
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  BabyGund commented
  
  February 19, 2011, 07:10 PM
  
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  You won't have to keep it up forever. I remember it was like that when my ex-H and I first moved in together, and we had FT jobs. But it was like, we would wake up and do it, we'd come home and do it, we'd do it before we went to bed, we'd wake up in the middle of the night and do it. I think that lasted the first two weeks and then...we just got tired.
  
  So hang in there.
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