Last night my SO came home from playing pool with his friend and he says to me "My friend is probably going to plan me a surprise bachelor party, is that okay with you?" Well honestly, it had never even crossed my mind! Of course he wants a bachelor party! But then I started worrying, and not about what you would think.
I'm scared that they'll get in a drunken car crash. My SO loves to drink and can really throw them back, as can his friends. I can make damn sure his car stays at the apartment, but what if one of his dumbass friends decides to take their car and then drink and drive? I told him that he's NOT allowed to get into a car with his friend if they've been drinking. They should take taxis (here they super cheap anyways). He told me one of his friends doesn't drink and that he'll take care of them.
But I'm still worried. Not to give TMI but my SO is always trying to drive after drinking. And I'm not talking a few beers. When we go to parties I always check to see which one of us is going to drive to drink accordingly. Sometimes he says he'll drive and so I'll drink lots and when we get home he'll say to me "I'm actually drunk". man- not fucking cool!!! *sigh* It just worries me. One of these days that shit will catch up with him. And it scares me shitless.
So those are my bachelor party worries- drinking and driving. I don't give a shit about the strippers giving him lap dances and rubbing boobies on him. I worry about the driving. Does that make me weird?
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And then me-- if he gets a bachelor party than I deserve a bachelorette party!!! But, I don't have any friends.
Doesn't that sound sad? Okay okay, so I do have friends, but... well let me give the run down. I have a really close friend who is moving back to the USA in 3 weeks and moving out to the beach in one. I have a close-ish friend/co-worker who is a mother, and I'm not sure I'd be comfortable inviting her (I mean we work together!!). I have 2 friends who are not super close (don't even know the SO and I are getting married), but who love to drink and would probably hang out with me. And I have a gay friend who I love and would definitely hang out with me, and his kind of lame boyfriend. So it would be me, maybe my coworker, 2 girls who I'm not really close with, and a gay couple. Going to a party that I'll plan. Is that even worth it?I don't know... I'm just feeling sort of sad because my close friends from high school aren't here to show me a good time. I'm reminiscing on my 21st birthday when they all took me out and got me wasted, and then took me home and tucked me in bed like good friends.
Anyways, just needed to talk about it.
Seriously though, I'm not a violent person. >.>
Annny way, I'm not sure there's a whole lot you can do. I mean, you could go offer to taxi everyone at the end of the night, but the likelyhood of them actually calling you seems slim. You could tell them that you've alerted the local cops of all their number plates and thus they'll be targeted (I've heard of that being done here) but over there, you could probably bribe the cop with a beer or something... So, yeah. I dunno.
On the party for you front, aren't there a few days before the wedding when you're in the US? Surely that really fun couple you mentioned might be able to pull something together? (just not the night before! haha)
I'll be in Colorado about a day and a half before, but this is a really small town so I doubt there's much to get into. I don't know. I'll figure something out!
About the drinking and driving - I can't believe your SO would do that when you're in the car with him concidering you were in a terrible crash!! Oh man I would kill my SO for doing that. Like seriously, that could be a deal breaker for me. And I haven't even gone through what you have. You need to kick him in the balls for that!