One of the higher higher ups was in town yesterday to do a site visit and see how everything is going. It was good, he was here for a while and then took us to dinner. (I had the best pork tenderloin... mmmmmmm pork. And a beer sampler! And wine! It was so tasty. I even ate my brussel sprouts because they were actually amazing!) Anyway, dinner was really great. One of the guys got promoted yesterday too, so it was kind of a "hooray you got promoted" and "thanks for all your hard work on this project" dinner.

Well, that's all fine and dandy, and what I expected it to be. Well, two of my coworkers are getting married in November (to each other). I realize that the fact that they're both here is probably part of it, but, I'm still a little twitchy. This higher higher up brought up their wedding and asked questions about it at least 5 times during dinner. Okay, no big deal. He knows they're getting married, so okay, sure. Ask the questions. I'm not upset, at least, not really. I can drink my wine over here and let it slide off my back that the fact that I'm also getting married this year is being completely ignored.

Well. Then he toasts them. "Long happy marriage and many kids" yadda yadda. And not even a "Oh yea, she's getting married too. Yay for you." I kept my mouth shut (for the most part) because I didn't want anyone to think I was being all attention whore-y. I made a comment to the other girl who's getting married, and she said, "Well, he probably doesn't know you're getting married." I realize that. And you know what? Fine. But every other person at the table knows I'm getting married in October, and could have said, "And her (me) too." But, no. Hell, I'm even a "unique" situation and the company is paying for Nix's move to MD. This is not something they normally do, because if they pay for a spouse/family to move with the employee, they're expecting that they're going from one location to one location. Not two locations to one.

So, I'm going to focus on that. And... because I can admit it here... focus on the fact that they didn't pay for her to move to be with him before she started working for the company. Which, they wouldn't have ever done, because, they don't pay for non-spouses or not-kids. So I've been petitioning that they pay for Nix to make the move to MD from IN, because we're getting married a month after my move to the next project. I mean, it's reasonable to ask that, right? They pay for spouses to move.... And he'll be my spouse... Plus, we haven't tricked the system and said "all of this stuff is mine & mine alone" when half of it is really his. We've been good and have followed the rules, and heck, I've even been frugal with my trips to look for places to live. Bought the inexpensive plane tickets, stayed in cheaper hotels. Didn't eat at 5 star restaurants during my trips. And I'm not even asking for much, just that they cover the basic moving expenses (which apparently rack up to about $1500...). I'm talking Uhaul, towing his car, and mileage (aka gas money).

So, I'm actually thrilled that they're going to do that for us. And during my preparations for moving, I started to look at what I need to do to get my name changed and get my car registered in MD... and everything is all "you have to do it within 60 days of moving into MD". I'll be honest. Most states are either 60 or 90 days after moving into the state you need to get it done. And... I haven't done that, lol. Whoooooops. But, because I'm changing my name, I'll get it done! At first I was on edge about it because for some reason I thought I was going to be there longer than 60 days before we got married, but turns out, that's not the case! So I'll be able to get that done once we get back from our honeymoon, and I'll drag Nix with me to the DMV so he can get a new license and title his car in MD and all that stuff too. I mean, if we both have to go, we might as well go together, right? I'll let him out of going to the Social Security office, though. THAT'S going to be an annoying trip.... especially because the office is only open like, 9am-4pm and I'm going to have to take a few hours off of work to get it done. Oh well. My next manager knows I'm getting married and changing my name (and she's had to do it too) so I imagine she'll be okay with it. Or at least sort of okay with it. It will work out...

Focus on the good stuff, right? 20 days until I see him, 21 days until we get our marriage license. 22 days until we go to his friend's wedding. And we're currently sitting at 57 days until wedding day.