Has anyone ever started feeling resentment towards their SO's work?
I'm starting to feel that and it worries me. I don't want to be feeling that at all...
My SO loves her job, and she's great at it. Hell, I love her job and I love hearing about it! She's saving up for her's and our future, which is amazing! But her work hours are nuts. She works 4am to 12:30pm, with overtime almost every shift (and a 30-45 mins drive each way). We do not talk while she's at work, which is totally understandable, but by the time I'm home from my job and gym we talk a little bit until she goes to be at 8:00pm. Which results in very little skype times too. (we used to skype before bed, we don't really anymore) The days she's off she's in bed early too. Therefore I spend all my evenings alone. As I'm writing this, I realised this is completely irrational and not fair of me to have these feelings but, I really don't deal well with my loneliness, it usually makes me sit around and think about anything and everything. I don't have many (if any) friends so I don't go out much, unless it's with family. I try to keep busy as possible. I play video games online, I read, I clean, go shopping, watch shows, go running... But all those activities are alone, and I'm just fed up with being alone. All the time.
Clearly the culprit is my loneliness and my thoughts...I just want to shake that feeling. I don't really want to talk to her about it because she already feels it. And she doesn't need it to be even more worried. I just want it gone.
Has anyone gone through that?
What were your ways of dealing with it?
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Mims27 started a blog post Need to shake this feeling off...Need to shake this feeling off...
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#3Mims27 commentedEditing a commentI go to the gym/+run and read a lot which does help but it's the evenings I find the hardest. After 8 when she goes to bed...I don't know, I seem to go through days where it's just stupid hard and days where I'm just fine. But it's like one extreme to another and it's draining, you know?Originally posted by silvermoonfairy3;bt35717As for Skype we've talked about it 100 times, if we skype before she goes to bed she just ends up falling asleep and that drives me nuts. It's like what's the point. Last night we talked on the phone and she was barely coherant. lol We try to do it earlier in the evenings but school has started now so she's even more busy and has tons of work to do...oh the joys of LDRs...lolMaybe you could also talk to her about at least having skypes before bed a couple times a week, to get some of that connection back, too?
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#4silvermoonfairy3 commentedEditing a commentCould you go to the gym after she goes to sleep? That would give you a little more time before she goes to bed, and you'd still have something to do later in the evening. -
#5barb757 commentedEditing a commentOH MY WORD! i hate my so's job. we were suppose to finally meet a few weeks ago and the boss had a client that needed to talk to him. so far said client has yet to show up so it's making our meet pushed. my so has talked to his boss and the boss still says this client is coming. GGRRR. like you i have no friends and like you i try to keep busy. unfortunately for me i live in a very rural area. to go to a movie i would have to drive 70 miles. you have my prayers
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