But one thing happened this weekend that was not very good...
On Friday evening, we were cleaning up the kitchen after dinner and hanging out with her parents, like we usually do, and Allie mentioned that she didn't want to go to work on Saturday, she just wanted to hang out with me. But her dad made a comment along the lines of "You called in sick more in the last month then you have all winter." Allie's mom's gave her an "oh shit" look and I was standing there like confused because she never once told me she called in sick. So infront of her parents I ask, "when did you call in sick?" She tried to tell me she told me, it was during the move a few weeks ago. But I outright told her she did not tell me. Everyone clearly knew I was pissed and pretty much felt stupid. At that moment I shut up, because I did not want to talk about it in front of her folks. So I walked to the living room, grabbed my water bottle, filled it up. Walking back, I saw her an her mom share another look like "fuck". So I said good night and walked away. Allie followed shortly after. She laid in bed quietly, but I sure as hell was not going to ignore what happened...
So I asked her flat out why she lied to me. Again she tried to say that she told me...I could tell she was starting to feel like shit and regret. She never told me. She told me she went to work. She even texted me when she was going to work and when she went back home like she usually does. I told her that. I asked her "Why?" repeatedly. I asked what I did, to make her feel like she HAD to lie. She kept saying she didn't know, and she was crying. I was crying too. I told her that wasn't a good enough answer. She "made me feel like a fool, standing in front of her parents, not knowing what to they were talking about. Completely out of the loop. And hurt." So she finally said that she was worried that I would be upset with her for helping her parents out so much. She was under a lot of stress and realized it was really stupid, didn't know why she did it and she apologized a bunch of times. I forgave her and told her to "never do that again. I trust her 100% and I really don't want that to change". Especially over something so stupid. At this point I don't know how many days she did call in sick, I didn't ask, and it doesn't really matter.
The next day she went to work. We talked about it again during the day and we were good. We went to renfaire with her brothers that evening and had a really good day.
We both have some changing to do. She told me last night that she's sorry again. She regrets it completely and shouldn't have done it in the first place. I told her that I will try to keep an eye on my reactions/actions to her being busy with her family so I don't cause her feel bad in these situations. It's weird how something so silly can make you feel so hurt...
I'm not mad anymore, I just had to tell someone and get it off my chest.
I hope you can strengthen the bond in that department too, and reassure your wife that you're not gonna judge or be mean about whatever she thinks is too big of a deal to be honest about. Lying is so, so tempting sometimes, it's tough to go against it. All the best to you both