Last month my SO was telling me about this guy at work, lets call him J. J was up for a promotion even though he was looking elsewhere for work. J then accepted the promotion, then quit the company a week later to work for their rival company down the road. Fair enough, the bosses were pissed, but he left and that should be the end of the story.
Except, for the passed 2 weeks, he has been contacting my SO asking him out for lunch- which will look bad if someone sees them together. The first time, he didn't tell anyone till he told me and asked what I would do. I told him to be completely honest about it to his work colleagues "J has been texting me blah blah blah", then he can't get in trouble for being shifty and get accused of conspiring against the company. He agreed. His boss talked to him about it, basically warning him not to have contact with that guy, but that was it. But J has been very insistent! he even sent an email to my SO's WORK email?! My SO went straight to his boss of course so they knew what was going on right away.
Today J texted him again, my So replied saying "Look i'm sorry but it will look bad" and J is not taking it well. I mean he was at the company for 10 + years, he should know how the company is run- they are very big on loyalty. My SO is just starting his career and can't afford for something bad to happen as a result of this. All I can tell him is to be upfront with his bosses and to keep up the good job- he got a raise last week- I'm so proud! It hurts I can't help him more, it's just this guy putting him in a horrible situation! It's frustrating, I don't know what goes through people's heads sometimes!!!!
