So I was watching How I Met Your Mother, on an episode about couple fighting in season 5, and had a realization. It is one I've had before, but it always weirds me out. We don't fight. We just don't. At least not in the normal way. We resolve any issue fairly quickly. And when things get heated we have ways of dealing with it. I tend to walk out or change my tone so that I/he can calm down. By the time I come back or he hears me we realize it isn't worth the raised voices and talk through it.
Still, it feels weird. Even that almost never happens. We've been together for almost 9 months and we almost never fight. While this sounds like a good thing, it just feels weird. All of his and I's previous relationships involved tons of fighting. So I wonder, if we will some day start fighting. Or if we should fight. Or if we just deal with things better than we did in previous relationships.
Silly thought, so I thought it belonged here.
I think when people say "fighting is healthy", they mean, it's healthy to disagree about something rather than hold in your opinions, so that you can feel free in a relationship. It would be unhealthy if you would hold in what you think because you didn't want to 'fight.' But I don't like 'fighting' in the really loud sense, because they are scary to me. I prefer to try and understand my boyfriend rather than yell at him. :P But I know each couple has different ways of working it out and sometimes a couple might need to have a 'fight' but all couples 'fight/disagree' in certain ways. And the way you handle them lets you know whether or not your relationship will make it, or at least is one of the factors.. because the better you are able to resolve conflicts (with both of you satisfied about the decision) the better.. so I think it's good.
And also.. just because you haven't had a big fight, doesn't mean you won't ever.. but if you can resolve a conflict through discussion, it's better.
If you haven't fought in the ways that are stereotypical to fighting, don't worry about it. Different people bring out different reactions so this relationship might not happen as previous. I agree with Squeeker, it is healthy to discuss a disagreement and come to a reasonable conclusion. Don't sweat it.