So, me and the bf ding 6 months in two weeks. I'm so excited for it. Its the only monthiversary I celebrate. After we hit 6 months its all years from there. Things continue to go amazingly. He's the best boyfriend I could ask for. We talked about Christmas presents, and I have his gifts all set. However, I'm starting to get a little nervous about what he may be getting me.
My bffs wedding was little over a month ago. We discussed stopping the whole wedding talk after the wedding was over. We had been more or less succeeding. The other day on a ride home from long island, out of no where, he started asking me about my engagement ring preferences. Cut, and style and stuff like that. I was really kind of shocked. I didn't think this topic would come up for a very long time. I gave him a brief description of what i wanted (which was really easy bc he gave me earrings that are identical to the style of engagement ring i want). Then he kinda dismissed it again, so I shrugged it off.
Then when I went to his house two days later, I walked into the kitchen and was immediately told to leave. Why was I told to leave? BC he was discussing my Christmas present with his mother. That seemed weird to me, unless he was trying to get her opinion on it.
Lastly, I jokingly reminded him of our budget for Christmas shopping for each other. And he just grinned and said, "I maybe going a little over"
Now, maybe I'm reading these signs wrong. Maybe I'm way way off, I don't know. But all of these signs to me point to possible engagement ring for Christmas. I don't really know how I feel about this and i'm not gonna get myself amped up for this if I'm wrong. BC there is a good possibility that I am. For lots of reasons.
We have discussed this before, and we both have agreed that 1 year is the minimum time people should get engaged. He's also told me that he doesn't want to get engaged until he can afford a wedding. We both also agree that we want to be absolutely sure that the person we marry is it. BC we only want to do this once in a lifetime, divorce isn't an option for us.
I really don't even know how I would handle it if he did propose. I love him more then anything and I can totally see a future for us. I can see us being together for the long haul, having kids and just being stupid happy for the rest of our lives. But I feel like there are steps I should take before getting engaged. Like living together and such. Again, I'm probably reading too much into this and he's just getting me some fancy jewelry for Christmas lol. I just needed to vent my concerns.
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#1squeeker commentedNovember 25, 2012, 10:50 AMEditing a commentMaybe it's a promise ring? Or some other sort of big present that he would need your mother's advice on and not an engagement ring? Maybe try and have a conversation with him to remind him about how you both agreed on more time before you are engaged... I agree that although you might know or feel after 6 months that you want to get married, it's still a pretty short time before an engagement.. I would try not to worry too much but if there are more signs it might be what he's planning, I'd try and figure out a way to tell him how to feel.. maybe you two could have a longer engagement.. if that is his plan.. though I feel too that you shouldn't get engaged until you're financially ready for marriage and a life together as well as being definitely sure that you are marrying the right person.. divorce isn't an option for my SO or I either.. we both know we want to be with each other and have been together 2 years but are not in the financially best position yet so cannot really get married (especially since we're international and can't be in the same place as each other yet, except for shorter periods of time)
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